Sleepysheep · 26-30, M
Fuck yeah buddy I’m proud of you! Kickin the liquor is a brutal challenge not a lot have luck with.
I think you should pause the therapy get out there and meet people, take that money you’d have saved and treat yourself!
If you ever feel the urge to drink I suggest smoking some refer or perhaps energy drinks.
Honestly this is good news and I’m happy for you brethren! 😎👏
I think you should pause the therapy get out there and meet people, take that money you’d have saved and treat yourself!
If you ever feel the urge to drink I suggest smoking some refer or perhaps energy drinks.
Honestly this is good news and I’m happy for you brethren! 😎👏
Kuronekko · 41-45, F
I think, having seen my ex go and then stop going, it can feel quite negative and like its based around identifying as having a problem. Seeing him stop going to AA, I began to understand why they drum that into you so hard. Its because eventually you start thinking you're fixed and you don't need to identify as that anymore. The addiction takes over again. For my ex that was the point where he would start to think he could just casually drink again. It would quickly spiral into denial that there was ever a problem to start with and he'd be back at square one.
We aren't together anymore because of his drinking. He lost jobs, friends, his home and eventually everything else. Its awful to be reminded of the horrors of alcoholism on a regular basis, but it can unfortunately be necessary.
We aren't together anymore because of his drinking. He lost jobs, friends, his home and eventually everything else. Its awful to be reminded of the horrors of alcoholism on a regular basis, but it can unfortunately be necessary.
DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@DearAmbellina2113 Someone told me Al-Anon might be better. Someone recommended it to me. Because although I didn’t have to deal with an abusive alcoholic, I did grow up with an abusive sober father.
Just curious if you tried different meetings and if there would have been anything preventing you from sharing there what you’ve shared here. Also, how you’ve done in the past trying to quit on your own or if you’re in therapy to address your alcoholism and trauma.
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@OlderSometimesWiser I’ve tried a few different ones in the past but that was long ago so I can’t quite remember what those were like.
And no I didn’t personally share any of this at the meeting I recently stopped going to but that’s because a handful of the members at this location have announced during the meetings that “this isn’t a place for therapy”.
I’m understanding of their rules so I decided it’s not for me.
The substance itself is obviously harmful to me and others but my concern is that if I only address the alcohol part of it, it’s like failing to pull a weed out by the root.
If I don’t address the trauma as well, alcoholism will just re-enter the picture because it’ll still be an escape route for unresolved trauma.
I just got a job with full time benefits from day 1 so I’m gonna schedule an appointment with a particular therapist that I’ve seen in the past.
And no I didn’t personally share any of this at the meeting I recently stopped going to but that’s because a handful of the members at this location have announced during the meetings that “this isn’t a place for therapy”.
I’m understanding of their rules so I decided it’s not for me.
The substance itself is obviously harmful to me and others but my concern is that if I only address the alcohol part of it, it’s like failing to pull a weed out by the root.
If I don’t address the trauma as well, alcoholism will just re-enter the picture because it’ll still be an escape route for unresolved trauma.
I just got a job with full time benefits from day 1 so I’m gonna schedule an appointment with a particular therapist that I’ve seen in the past.
@HermannFegelein Yes, it’s absolutely vital to address/resolve the trauma which led you to drink. Glad you’re heading back to therapy and I wish you all the best.
HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@OlderSometimesWiser thank you ☺
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HermannFegelein · 26-30, M
@WonderGirl Excellent
@HermannFegelein I quit drinking in August 2023. I was a heavy drinker.
dale74 · M
It's okay they're just a bunch of quitters