I have a difficult decision to make.

How do you go about making choices and knowing which one is right? I am not talking about what “feels” right—feelings are fleeting and can be temporary or deceptive.

I am talking about the really hard decisions in life, the ones that will affect your future. When you have two choices presented, do you go left or right? Do you trust yourself enough to make the right choice? Is there even a wrong choice?

There are many ways to look at this. I am in a really weird place in my life and I am at a crossroads. I am really just curious to hear others’ thoughts on this one.

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dancingtongue · 80-89, M

I understand your skepticism about involving feelings. Otoh, given sufficient time, I have found it useful to ponder all the ifs, buts, and whatifs -- sometimes ad nauseum -- at night, alone, no distractions. Then wait until morning when I awake to make a decision. Because by morning my subconscious usually is pointing the direction in a "gut feeling". I have found that the mind's subconscious is a wonderful computing tool that strips out all the inconsequential stuff if allowed to do it without our conscious mind constantly flip flopping and coming up with additional excuses to not make a decision.

There is a lot of truth in those old aphorisms "sleep on it" and "trust your gut".