I have a difficult decision to make.

How do you go about making choices and knowing which one is right? I am not talking about what “feels” right—feelings are fleeting and can be temporary or deceptive.

I am talking about the really hard decisions in life, the ones that will affect your future. When you have two choices presented, do you go left or right? Do you trust yourself enough to make the right choice? Is there even a wrong choice?

There are many ways to look at this. I am in a really weird place in my life and I am at a crossroads. I am really just curious to hear others’ thoughts on this one.

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ViciDraco · 41-45, M

I tend to overthink decisions like this a lot. I make a lot of self-sacrificing decisions for the benefit of others. I cannot say whether it is the right or wrong or choice. Sometimes I lament that I am not in a better position because I chose to help others over myself, but I find that lamentation easier to live with than lamenting the guilt I would feel with more selfish choices. Unfortunately, everyone is different with different tolerances and intolerances so there really is no clear guide.