Yesterday i was depressed, my mother asked me to tell her.

When i told her , she got mad and lectured me whole night, called me weak for crying and to not cry because i will appear weak to others and that i am doing it just to harass her. I mean why ask me to tell her if she can't deal with it.

She only cares about what others think about us, doesn't care about what i am going through.

Later she told me to solve my problems myself and to not bother her.

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Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F

That's terrible and I'm sorry.
Some people can't handle the sadness of others
If you can seek out help from other sources,she has shown you, unfortunately,that she cannot be one.

Iamnaked · M

Seek professional help and trust me, It Is NOT in here.
Your mom seems to have her own problems.
Sounds like she is ate up with self importance. That is an awful burden to be trapped under. I pitty her, she will never see it.

Depression is so senseless, it’s a self inflicted state of mind.
Life is waiting for you to get out and get some.

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@Iamnaked yes i am going to psychriatrist, she didn't stop me, gives me money to get counselling and medicines all that. She thinks depression is shameful and i am being sensitive. She can't or don't want to see my struggles.

jehova · 31-35, M

Wow seems like not much of a support for you. She cannot even provide advice? WTH. Well yea just cold shoulder her for awhile. If she asks do the old nod and smile, "good" but no details. Or act like our president and just say, "No comment."
I mean given how she responded why did she bother asking?

sahi81 · 22-25, F

@jehova I don't expect anything from her if she can't provide. I understand everyone have limitations. I am just angry that she didn't see that i am struggling and why did she even ask if she can't handle the situation and how can she lecture me while i am struglling.

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FlowersNButterflies · 61-69, FVIP

Wow. You are going to have to emotionally detach from her.

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sahi81 · 22-25, F

@smiler2012 she thinks depression is for weak and others will shame or bully us if be depressed and don't take it seriously even when it is serious. She feels everyone are against her. I stopped sharing my problems or even goals in life with her due to her attitude. Emotionally she is not reliable, even to counsel me or to appreciate me in my goals. She gives money if i ask for anything though, to seek counselling or studies and all that.

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