Punches · 46-50, F
@KiwiDan You just cut right to the chase, like, "Naw I do not want to hear that BS" 😄
Your OP though, I think that is a lot of people's situation. it's like we all would like a social life but with life demands, even when people have free time, they just want to veg out at home.
You are no better nor worse off socially than anyone else.
Your OP though, I think that is a lot of people's situation. it's like we all would like a social life but with life demands, even when people have free time, they just want to veg out at home.
You are no better nor worse off socially than anyone else.
It's the anxiety of progress.
You have a girlfriend now, and you actually have friends. Life is never perfect for anyone but think about the worst times in your life and compare them to this. The anxiety you feel is partly a hangover from that.
Social skills can be learned, even for late developers. Keep your Warhammer friends because that is your base (and ultimately fallback option).
If you have time, get a second hobby. One that more 'normie' people are into and can connect with ,
Also, understand your value because you clearly have some and too much self-loathing can put people off.
You have a girlfriend now, and you actually have friends. Life is never perfect for anyone but think about the worst times in your life and compare them to this. The anxiety you feel is partly a hangover from that.
Social skills can be learned, even for late developers. Keep your Warhammer friends because that is your base (and ultimately fallback option).
If you have time, get a second hobby. One that more 'normie' people are into and can connect with ,
Also, understand your value because you clearly have some and too much self-loathing can put people off.
Carazaa · F
Good for you that you want to do things with friends. If they are too busy, they are just that, busy. Maybe get more friends, take a class (racquetball, tennis, dance, yoga, anything that you enjoy and then talk to people and ask them to go play golf or something on a day off.
With your girlfriend, it might help if you can squish those thoughts immediately. The second you're aware that you're thinking that you're not good enough, step in and remind yourself that you don't get to pick who she loves. Hopefully, over time, that should help to calm that thinking down some for you.
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@HootyTheNightOwl Good idea
markinkansas · 61-69, M
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@markinkansas I should do that
nobodyishome · 31-35, F
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@nobodyishome I wasn't getting dates before this relationship, and I doubt I'll get any after it.
ImNotHungry · 36-40, M
KiwiDan · 31-35, M
@ImNotHungry I already do that :)
Iamnaked · M
Get a dog.
Quit trying to get people to help you feel better. They prolly think you’re a depressed person. Everything I read here makes you sound like an emotional bottomless pit of need.
No one wants to be around someone like that.
You can always tie a steak around your neck to get the dog to play with you.
No, really, life is out there, go get some and stop reaching for one way friends.
They are not real friends, never were.
Quit trying to get people to help you feel better. They prolly think you’re a depressed person. Everything I read here makes you sound like an emotional bottomless pit of need.
No one wants to be around someone like that.
You can always tie a steak around your neck to get the dog to play with you.
No, really, life is out there, go get some and stop reaching for one way friends.
They are not real friends, never were.
MyNameIsHurl · 41-45, F
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