Are you currently trying to talk someone out of doing something bad? Someone I know wants to cast a spell on her boyfriend and make him blind because

@PhoenixPhail or he is evil and she wants to fight him on his own level

@LILY61 Huh? So now he's an evil
wizard casting spells against her? wtf

@SomeMichGuy no....i mean maybe he is just an evil person...the regular kind and she wanted to get even on his level so she thought "Evil man...I think I'll put a whammy on him...." and really who care? she just wants to empower herself.

@LILY61 Feeding a hurt makes it fester and that hurts HER.

@SomeMichGuy no...she would be empowering herself. sometimes i think humans read poems and think that they are true...and they definitely are not

@LILY61 No. Thinking that this makes sense feeds her revenge, which isn't empowering, bjt belittling; it tends to bring her down to his level, it doesn't ennoble her or raise her above this.

Feeding revenge doesn't move your self in the right direction.

@SomeMichGuy she isn't getting revenge!!! There is no revenge in this scenario. she is going through the act of revenge but basically talking to herself and lighting a candle and saying bad things about him out loud. Then the act is done and she feels a little better and realizes it is silly and moves on with her life.

i used to read Psychology today starting about ten years old. and one thing in there saved my sanity. it said that if you were seriously angered by someone's evil act then you should act out getting even with them in your head. usually that is enough and you can move on. i lived in Cincinnati most of my life and every one i met there should have been wearing horns. so i spent alot of time imagining killing them. and i am the most sane person i have ever known.

@SomeMichGuy and you believe in gods and fairies and Santa and the Easter bunny.

i have been through so much in my life it is incredible that i am still alive. I wish now that i had gotten even with those people or spoken up for myself...or had them put in jail. But i was stupid just like you are now. I stayed sane and rational and tried to stay away from them, but that was impossible. i turned the other cheek. i got myself a shrink or three.

i started to not deal with people at all. and now i stay away from them completely. people were dangerous and vile and evil when i walked among them but now since Covid...they just let that freak flag fly wherever they go. they murder on whim, they do more drugs than ever and there is no truth to any of those stats where they say usage is going down. They set fires on purpose and damage works of art or monuments to the test of time. And they leave there children in cars to die on purpose.

i am merely talking about going through the experience in your mind...not reality. If this person suddenly gets the urge to do it for real, then she was planning on it anyway.