How can one feel good about themselves...

Or confident, without feeling arrogant/selfish?

I struggle with this so much. I feel I can never tap into that phrase people use "Take me as I am." Or ever feel I can offer someone something...my mind will not allow me to. It overrides it with You are selfish. Or "Who do you think you are?" That was engrained in me growing up. 😟

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iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

It’s okay to feel good about yourself though. When you are arrogant you have an exaggerated sense of your importance or ability.

Being confident doesn’t mean you are arrogant.

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Coralmist · 41-45, F

@iamonfire696 Also I love your About Me!!...It is really true..what people think about us is simy not truth..its just thought!! It reminded me of a quote I just found by Eckhart Tolle. "Nothing you can say "about" you, is you." 🪻

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Coralmist Thank you, it took a long time for me to realize that and sometimes I still get hurt when people I don’t know judge me so harshly but ultimately I don’t care what they think of me and it doesn’t matter.

I really wish you could get to a place where you could be okay with having confidence in yourself and knowing you’re not being self-centred/arrogant. That’s not your personality at all so it would never be that. You deserve to be happy 💗.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@iamonfire696 Thank you for such kind words...have a great weekend 🦋🤗

iamonfire696 · 41-45, F

@Coralmist It’s the truth. Thank you and I hope you are too.