How can one feel good about themselves...

Or confident, without feeling arrogant/selfish?

I struggle with this so much. I feel I can never tap into that phrase people use "Take me as I am." Or ever feel I can offer someone something...my mind will not allow me to. It overrides it with You are selfish. Or "Who do you think you are?" That was engrained in me growing up. 😟

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Piper · 61-69, F

There is a big difference between feeling good about who you know you are, and being arrogant or selfish. Still, I think I might understand what you've described . Throughout my own life, there has always been someone saying something akin to "who do you think you are"...and some of them were people very important to me in some way. Even when they were not, especially, the words had lasting impact.

IndianaJoes · M

@Piper yes and also a lot of people say things that hurt other people's feelings and destroys their self-confidence. And for a lot of people it's hard to get that back.

Piper · 61-69, F

@IndianaJoes Yes, that is sadly true.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Piper I'm sorry you were also told "Who do you think you are? " It is really a saying that cuts you down. So much so I don't know who I am. I do know I love humor and am compassionate, but The minute I acknowledged any positive thing about me, I was told Do you think you're perfect? So I fear dating..my mind still thinks any acknowledgement of myself means I am arrogant. 😢