How can one feel good about themselves...

Or confident, without feeling arrogant/selfish?

I struggle with this so much. I feel I can never tap into that phrase people use "Take me as I am." Or ever feel I can offer someone something...my mind will not allow me to. It overrides it with You are selfish. Or "Who do you think you are?" That was engrained in me growing up. 😟

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NativePortlander1970

(((((HUGS))))) I am so very sorry you grew up with that kind of abuse. I was also raised that self sacrifice is rewarding in and of itself, and now I have nothing worth anything to my name, living disability check to disability check in a section 8 apartment. I have come to learn that serving oneself is not selfish, in airline safety drills, flight attendants tell parents to put their oxygen masks on first before their small children, so that they don't pass out before they have a chance to put them on their kids.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@NativePortlander1970 Ty friend. 🌹 I am starting to see I am not selfish for saying a positive trait about myself. No one would ever date then if they adhered to this distorted idea. That if you believe you are good, then you are a b*tch. Thats what I was called. Its true of the airplane rule. And how can i ever find love if I never give myself a shred of confidence?? Ty again. 🐞

NativePortlander1970

@Coralmist (((((HUGS))))) You are so very welcome Dear Friend 🤗❤️ Again I am so very sorry You went through all of that :(