How can one feel good about themselves...

Or confident, without feeling arrogant/selfish?

I struggle with this so much. I feel I can never tap into that phrase people use "Take me as I am." Or ever feel I can offer someone something...my mind will not allow me to. It overrides it with You are selfish. Or "Who do you think you are?" That was engrained in me growing up. 😟

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Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

This sounds like Jante.

Here we say "Fuck Jante"

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Queendragonfly What or who is Jante?

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Coralmist It's a social norm that was first used in a Scandinavian fiction novel year 1933 that later became a real norm in Sweden, Norway Finland and Denmark.

Coralmist · 41-45, F

@Queendragonfly Oh so this is not like a spoof...its a real list of social rules?

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@Coralmist Yes.

The author of the novel made this plaque and put it up in his home town in Denmark.

Then it has been translated to finnish, Swedish, Norwegian and then English.