Idk what to do

Im on the verge of a heartattack I feel like im going crazy...

Less than 5 days from an overseas trip anticipated for 9 mths with my long distance gf of a year and a bit... and we're fighting over the fact that I dont want to give her direct access to my main bank account from where I get paid and pay my bills.

I share my money with her through a different card but it got deactivated through a mishap. FYI no she did not use that card much in the past, just occassional take out but Im soooo not comfy with giving my main card deets. I know she wouldnt abuse my trust should I let her but I flat out dont want to give that card and would prefer a proxy method (an inbetween card/account) but shes not having it because its an action of distrust.....

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cherryxblossom

A year into the relationship is still testing the waters, especially if it hasn’t all been face to face. I’m curious at what point she got access to any of your money, and how that came about. Would you mind sharing?

I think you’re absolutely correct NOT to give her access to your main account. I can understand if you wanted to help her out time to time, cash isn’t exactly an option long distance…but she definitely has not earned access to more. You are not married and you are not responsible for her finances at this point. It’s ok if you want to help, but don’t fall victim to being taken advantage of.