Emotions Get To Ya

My dad has always been one of those types that tries not to show emotion, unless the emotion is that he's upset...

My mom also tries to hide her emotions when feeling down. Though her poker face is quite horrible and you read her body language pretty easily.

But in the past couple of weeks, they've lost three former coworkers that became life long friends... and it clearly gotten to them a bit 🥺 and very understandably so.

Though it's odd seeing people that never show they're down, clearly be down... and I know darn well trying to talk about it with my dad will only upset him. Two of three where his former co-workers.

I'll try to see if my mom wants to talk sometime when she's away from my dad. It was her best friend and person whom she vented to the most.

And honestly, if/when I lose my parents I have no idea what I'll do... they're my emotional rocks that help keep me steady.

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SweetNSassy · F

I think parents try to keep it together so they stay grounded, so they have that firm parental role for us, but now that we are grown we see past it. I think you are doing all you can do and that is to just be there.

And I’m gonna tell you what my mom told me, when I told her I don’t how I would ever do life without her. She looked me in my eyes and said if only you could see how strong you are. You have what it takes to do this. You just take it a day at a time and stay true to your values and make the best of life and you will always have your siblings to lean on. 💕.

Hope that helps💗

MizzO · 31-35, F

Great dialogue. Somethimes when there is something really heavy to talk about it helps me to just say it out loud first...even if it's to myself. Somehow just the act of speaking it makes it easier to bear and also easier to say it to someone else. My parents are similar. Dad always presents with a mild form of irritation when he is concerned or worried, mom just pastes a smile on and reassures other people. Trying to be different. It's hard to be different when same is so comfortable.

Gangstress · 41-45, F

Im the same mate. I know my parents are getting older. They are my stability. They also are strong.
They came here with nothing and built their lives. And actually ended up better off than most that live here.
Its sad to think. But make the most out of them now. Take all the advice, the love. Listen to them make them laugh.

I know my dad was no saint when i was younger. But ill be damned if i see him live with guilt

Vivaci

Awww….I constantly worry bout my son the same way…what’ll he do without me? 😞

Souls

How do you handle your own emotions?

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Souls

@Viper This can be from a fear of vulnerability and a self protective mechanism this is unhealthy for your mental health and history repeats itself

Viper · M

@Souls I absolutely have a fear of vulnerability :( ... well, it's unhealthy... but what is healthy, and how do I get from where I am, to the healthiness?

Souls

@Viper Occasionally hiding your emotions is pretty normal. It might even seem like the best option in tense or public situations but when you hide your feelings because you fear how others will react, you end up denying your own experience this might seem like a good way to avoid conflict and emotional pain, but it usually becomes a hard cycle to break learning to express emotions authentically isn’t always easy, but a therapist can help. The tools you learn in therapy can empower you to communicate more openly, without letting fear of the potential consequences hold you back for self expression. Acknowledging and accepting feelings as they come up, even if you choose not to express them immediately would be wise, or start a journal, write your emotions and feelings down, speak to someone you trust, etc. I hope this helps

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