Emotions Get To Ya

My dad has always been one of those types that tries not to show emotion, unless the emotion is that he's upset...

My mom also tries to hide her emotions when feeling down. Though her poker face is quite horrible and you read her body language pretty easily.

But in the past couple of weeks, they've lost three former coworkers that became life long friends... and it clearly gotten to them a bit 🥺 and very understandably so.

Though it's odd seeing people that never show they're down, clearly be down... and I know darn well trying to talk about it with my dad will only upset him. Two of three where his former co-workers.

I'll try to see if my mom wants to talk sometime when she's away from my dad. It was her best friend and person whom she vented to the most.

And honestly, if/when I lose my parents I have no idea what I'll do... they're my emotional rocks that help keep me steady.

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Souls

How do you handle your own emotions?

Viper · M

@Souls It really depends on what resources I got around me, but honestly I probably bury them at first ...

But if I have a good opportunity to talk about them, I do talk... at least if I trust the people listening.

But too often I probably try to fix things myself keeping them in

Souls

@Viper This can be from a fear of vulnerability and a self protective mechanism this is unhealthy for your mental health and history repeats itself

Viper · M

@Souls I absolutely have a fear of vulnerability :( ... well, it's unhealthy... but what is healthy, and how do I get from where I am, to the healthiness?

Souls

@Viper Occasionally hiding your emotions is pretty normal. It might even seem like the best option in tense or public situations but when you hide your feelings because you fear how others will react, you end up denying your own experience this might seem like a good way to avoid conflict and emotional pain, but it usually becomes a hard cycle to break learning to express emotions authentically isn’t always easy, but a therapist can help. The tools you learn in therapy can empower you to communicate more openly, without letting fear of the potential consequences hold you back for self expression. Acknowledging and accepting feelings as they come up, even if you choose not to express them immediately would be wise, or start a journal, write your emotions and feelings down, speak to someone you trust, etc. I hope this helps