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My clubbed thumbs make me feel super ugly.

I always try to hide them. I got picked on for them a lot too growing up. I was told they were gross or creeped people out. It's harder to tell when my nails are done because I always get long stiletto shaped nails but it still is noticeable.
Grateful4you · 70-79, M
Having something that makes you feel like you're somehow different something that might stay with a person for a lifetime. It is one of the most difficult behaviors to come to terms with. We are ashamed and embarrassed for being flawed , The discomfort and shame about body self- image happens in both men and women.

One of the most ironic things about this unfortunate part of our lives is that what appears to us as a major , really huge and ugly "defect" is in truth, barely noticed and hardly thought about to the person who has seen this particular "flaw" ( Of course there are really some serious malformations like the kid in the movie "Mask" who had what I think was Hydrocephaly I don't really remember. As was the case of the kid in "Mask" some folks overcome the trauma, the ever- present sense of being significantly less than others.

Instead of allowing this self- perceived flaw that is controlling emotional balance, take over the control and perhaps just purposefully draw attention to your person of concern and make a joke about it, Like, look, "My hands were borrowed by Quasimodo ( the hunchback of Notre dame or some other way of drawing a laugh) this can put you both at ease and diminish the thing that had control over you for so long.

People care so much more about the heart and soul of a person that something like clubbed hands have little to NO importance. It may take a little time but most people do overcome this habit of self -disgust that should really be a non-issue. I hope this helps and wish you my very best, (((HUGS))) David.
I had never heard of clubbed thumbs. After looking them up, I’ve actually seen fingers like that before but just didn’t know what they were called. I hope people have outgrown making fun of you for them because that’s a messed up thing to be making fun of. It’s not like you have any control over them.

I wouldn’t bother with hiding them and show them off proudly. That ought to deter any dullards from harassing you for them. I know it’s easier said than done, but you shouldn’t be poorly of yourself for something like that.
smiler2012 · 56-60, M
i am sorry to here this is the case . yes i understand it makes you paranoid but really that does not tell people your personality the real you and who you really are [a personnamedit]
LRain ·
Im sure its fine..

 
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