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So my ex boyfriend killed himself this morning... How am I supposed to feel right now?

Because honestly I can't put it into words. All I know is I'm not okay and I've felt sick to my stomach since I heard the news.
Our relationship was horrible and he stalked me for 4+ years to the point that I had to go to the police, but I still never would wish something like this to happen to him. Part of me knew this was going to happen someday, another part of me is relieved that he can't hurt me ever again, but a big part of me feels guilty even though I know it's not my fault. I'm so conflicted right now and I just needed to vent this out.
NaturallyPeculiar · 26-30, F
I just wanted to say thank you to those who gave kind words and were reassuring.
I know I did nothing wrong and that he choose to do this to himself. Our relationship was clearly not a good one and I disliked a lot of the things he did/put me through, however I wouldn't wish anyone to ever kill themselves especially not him. As someone pointed out, I once had feelings for him- and while those feelings left long ago- part of me still cared for him as a person even if I didn't agree/like how he was acting. This is the three person I knew who committed suicide and it just never an easy thing to go through. So again, thank you everyone for the kind words and the reassurance. It means a lot.
Don't feel guilty, the fault is his alone.
Things like this always hit hard because they're so close to home - for good or bad he was a big part of your life.
I hope you feel better very soon.
SW-User
It sucks, and even when you know it's not your fault you might think "what if..". But that "what if" doesn't exist, he made an horrible decision, that's what people sometimes do, it hasn't anything to do with you, but with his views, and capability to handle life, he even made you a co-victim by doing it. I wish you much strength in the next period.
He was obviously a very disturbed individual, it is sad he did not get the help he needed but it is not your fault, you dated so you once had some feelings for him but don't blame yourself it is something you had no control over!
Primnproper · 56-60, F
Big hugs to you...so sorry, Maybe you should try looking at it as a release for him from his torment..it takes time and certain stages to grief and you experience them all before you start to process it..give yourself time..
ineedadrink · 51-55, M
As you already alluded to, you can't always control what another person does. He was responsible, not you, so please try to keep that in the forefront of your mind.
walabby · 61-69, M
Don't feel guilty, feel relieved that the jerk can't bother you any more. You had nothing to do with it. He volunteered for it all...
I am so sorry - please take care of yourself - my condolences
idk, that's unfortunate. apparently he was unwell.
BooperDooper · 22-25, M
If you need to talk im here for you 🤔

 
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