I don't understand social queues

Can someone help me understand something. It might be my neurodivergent brain or people chronically online have extremely short fuses.

So, my neighborhood has this unofficial group on facebook & one member has been mass-posting the last few weeks. Some people have made posts voicing their frustration, but the latest post I finally spoke on because for some reason it's the one that has any comments on. All I said was that if anyone had issues with mass-posting, they should just block that person or scroll. The op replied with "thanks for your input," to which I responded with "I don't know if you're being sarcastic or not, but it's an option instead of complaining about it." And they lashed out at me, saying it shouldn't concern me because I don't even live in the neighborhood & that I'm now blocked.

They posted it anonymously, but I think I know who posted it because that "you don't even live here" line is a favorite & they are always quick to lash out. The only thing that makes me think it might not be them is how the post is written, it's not all what do they call it? Word salad? Word vomit?

If what I said was wrong or came across aggressively, I'll take accountability. I just want to know if it was & understand why.

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Notladylike

I’m not sure I understand the social ettiequte in those neighbourhood groups either. The people always seem highly reactive and I’ve been in arguments with others a few times. I just avoid interacting now unless I’m looking for specific info. I’m not sure what you said was wrong but probably obvious so maybe that’s why they went off about it 🤷‍♀. I’m ND too so I think the same if they don’t like it just mute or block.

FrugalNoodle · 46-50, M

You are not in the wrong, they are just suffering from a worldwide dilemma to use kind terminology for being inclusive and/or touchy. It's increasingly more difficult to engage in today's world. To be genuine isn't going to win any favors, but is all the more applaudable.

MarkPaul · 26-30, M

Well, it could be perceived as accusatory, so that is where you went wrong with the best of intentions, I'm sure. Going into an online group for which the purpose is to communicate to the group and suggesting that people should block the communication is... well... rude and not helpful. Certainly, you meant well but it comes off as obnoxious, aggressive, and like you're trying to tear the online community apart.

HoeBag · 51-55, F

Typically if we have to interact with people in the real world, we should limit our online interactions BECAUSE people tend to get mouthy online, even if they have to see these same people in the real world.

When it is real-life acquaintances, we should not say anything online that we would not say if standing face to face, but people forget that. Kind of like when people write "scathing" e-mails or texts to their boss. Like what the h3ll were they thinking? 🤨

Also when someone says or writes things like "Thank you for your input", it typically means they do not agree but would prefer not to discuss something any further. Best to let it drop.

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