I don't think that enough attention is paid to the fact that people (men, in my case) will make you feel like you are their entire world, then drop

you like a bad habit made of GLASS. To say that I have a broken heart is to do a grand injustice to hearts, because I'm not sure there is even one left to break, or experience trust anymore. I know it goes both ways gender-wise, but from my lens..we women are trudging the earth with limitless wounds, and we are expected to bow our heads and carry on..as if it has not EVEN OCCURRED..as if we are not bleeding from all our new orifices, as it pools at our feet, making it even more slippery a surface to traverse in the future. And I will say it until I am blue in the face, although this is not my current situation: to make a woman believe you are in love MERELY TO SLEEP WITH HER, is a true LACK of consent. And though you may have been GENTLE, and you may not be PROSECUTABLE..you know what they call people who do not get CONSENT.

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Adogslife · 61-69, M

Even if a woman is pursuing me, I’m going to ask her if she’s “ok” before the first time we have sex.

“Yes” isn’t important. It’s “No” that matters. I’ve actually heard “no” once moments (literally) before sex. It really threw me because she was pursuing me. Well, it turns out she still had a boyfriend and was having difficulty having sex with me before breaking up with him.

If you don’t ask, you don’t know the angst someone might have despite what you perceive at the moment.

Since women may often have differing opinions on consent and sexual comfort levels, you have to communicate and be SURE. Revoking consent before or during is fine. Revising consent after is not.

All of us get hurt with breakups. Sometimes it’s difficult to read the room. Hopefully there was a clue that you just didn’t pay attention to. Getting 100% blindsided would suck for sure.

Ferise1 · 46-50, M

@Adogslife jeez that was a waste of words and not the point at all

Adogslife · 61-69, M

@Ferise1 The OP is discussing action, awareness and consent. All were addressed with a with a personal experience example from a male’s perspective.

I thought that’d be a more sincere answer than, “Don’t be glass.”

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@Adogslife Ferise is just upset that he is straddling the fence of being an apologist, and has the reading comprehension of an african swallow..andd that he was called out for that fact..don't mind him.

Ferise1 · 46-50, M

@foldedunfolding I don’t even understand what you said

foldedunfolding · 41-45, F

@Ferise1 ...exactly.

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