Guys are weird.

An old acquaintance kept hinting at me to catch up. But I was always too busy.

Finally, I had time and told him so. I mean, it was supposed to be a group meet-up based on the conversation.

Next thing I know, I was being asked if my boyfriend would be okay with it.

Like, come on 🙄

Why would that be a concern? It was a group meet! Also, if I do have a boyfriend, the dude wouldn't have a reason to worry. That, and the guy who asked isn't really competition material.

I'm finally seeing the woes of trying to make friends as adults. So much expectation and hidden meanings. -.-

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being · 36-40, F

I was just hit by a stranger, young guy comes straight forward filled with courage, asked me if I have a boyfriend... I said no then he asks me my age and next question is if I like him.
He says he's looking for someone.
I'm like, yeah but not in this way, I added, I'm doing friendships. He's like, what about one day only? I'm like no dude lol
And he left !!!! Like didn't even ask for a café, if I'd be interested in becoming friends or anything.
Clear clear, what has become of people...

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

@being Yeah, more and more weird behaviors are coming out these days.

twiigss · M

@being hey just wanted to say I hope your day is going well 😊 today is employee appreciation day at my work so we all got treated to subway.

twiigss · M

@Casheyane yeah it's definitely no good. Is your day going well? Mine has been pretty good 😊

Caleidoscope · F

This is what happens to me most of the times when I catch up with a friend in real life.smh
Its always like is A ok ,B ok ,C ok ,??
Like ,what ?As far as I’m concerned the first and last person to be ok should be me ..🤷‍♀
society n its weird rules 🙄🙄

Thevy29 · 41-45, M

One of the people I went to school with, liked to say ‘let’s catch up for a beer’ but he was always too busy when I tried to suggest a day. 🤷‍♂

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@Thevy29 Adulthood dilemmas. But actually, I still like to believe that if a person really wants to see you, they'll make time.

Nightwings · 31-35, F

I think it's so immature when people expect someone's boyfriend or spouse to have a problem with a woman talking with other people, because that means that they are controlling and immature like that themselves.

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Casheyane · 31-35, F

@eMortal I like a direct approach, dating wise.

But for this matter, no, I do not consider him a candidate. For me, I really just wanna spend time and talk to new faces, find people who could inspire and tickle my mind. I would not call him insignificant. But I would say I don't know him enough, and I don't know the other acquaintance we're supposed to have gone out with anymore, ergo the purpose of the catch-up.

About the guy, tbh, he is not at par with my standards of bare minimum for a person who can tickle my mind.

But having known each other long ago, even then, I would think I never gave them any reason to think I'd ever be the kind of woman who would entertain another guy like that if I am already attached.

I think he thinks too highly of himself. And by being sneaky, he unknowingly disrespected my own values.
That and I have high standards for the person I wanna date. By that standard, the insignificant may apply to the weird guy, yeah.

Nightwings · 31-35, F

@Casheyane I agree that it's insulting when people like that think you would disrespect my partner. I had guys on SW ask me why my husband is ok with me using SW, as if SW is a dating site or something? They're just showing the truth about their motives if they think chatting with them would disrespect my partner lol.

Nothing wrong with having high standards for either friendships or dating. There's a big difference between saying you wouldn't date someone, and saying they are insignificant as a person. Besides, who would want to be friends with someone who tried to trick them into a date anyways, life is too short for that nonsense.

I also think it's annoying when guys act like they want to be friends, then turn around and want something more from you.

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@Nightwings
Yup.

A person who knows what he/she wants would act like it. A person who knows what he/she deserves would not settle for any less.

And if the intentions are clean and sincere, then all the more reason to be direct.

Wallflow3r

Yup most guys don’t just want to be just friends with a woman.. majority have intentions one way or another.

Ferric67 · M

hes totally interested in you

Casheyane · 31-35, F

@Ferric67 I didn't wanna assume.
But he just gave me a reason not to wanna meet up.

Ferric67 · M

@Casheyane I don't blame you
He needlessly made it awkward

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