It’s time to face a hard truth

@DeWayfarer Yes, exceptions always cause problems, without exception.

@DeWayfarer You reject generalities like “if you abuse others you are bad”?

That doesn’t make any sense

@PalteseMalconFunch What's is abuse to a masochist?

What's abuse to a sadist?

What's abuse to a submissive?

What's abuse to a dominant?

I once saved a girl from what I thought was in a abusive relationship. He was hitting her. She thanked me for it and we were close friends for years. Some might say a bit more than close friends and I would have agreed with them.

So I asked her eventually to marry me. Her answer was no. Because "I was too nice", that is a quote. As well as she had been dating someone else that wouldn't let her get into trouble.

She wanted someone to control her wild behaviors. I couldn't do that. Her wildness was what attracted me to her.

She married him shortly thereafter and moved away to his home state.

BTW my personality type in the BDSM community is called a switch!

I could be both submissive and dominant by their own testing.

My online traits only reflect this switch behavior. And they quite noticeable. As some might atest to.

I do have a lot of known blocks against me. Yet it's mostly by the political and the religious.

I have yet to block anyone in almost nine years on this site.

They can either take me or leave me. I have no desire to be popular. Which can be shown in my profile view count, over that almost nine years.

@DeWayfarer Now you're nitpicking. Even amongst those people, there is such a thing as abuse that we can all agree upon.

@LordShadowfire No not necessarily, you have to know them to understand them.

BTW I made a scientific post about the brain that really shows why no two people are the same.

https://similarworlds.com/disease-illness/4663692-What-is-subjective-reality-What-is-subjective-reality

Generalities must be truly vague to be real.

Specific generalities just can't be true. We are just too different on the basic level.

@DeWayfarer

@basilfawlty89 wasn't for you anyway! 🤷🏻‍♂

@DeWayfarer Well, here's a generality that's pretty much always true. Gaslighting people into thinking abuse isn't abuse, is bad.

@LordShadowfire Never said that some abuse isn't abuse. Just that no two people can view abuse the same. It's a individualistic thing.

She most certainly didn't want to be hit! Just controlled.

Some would view such control as abuse. She didn't.