How would you help someone, who needs help but has ego that keep them from accepting any help from anyone?

I knew a man like that. He had chronic back pain and a wife and young son. He was raised to believe that the husband should be the breadwinner and that the wife should take care of the children and home. He was also raised to not accept help from the government or go to charities for help. He would find someone who had old houses that needed to be rehabbed and live in one of them, basically a shack out in the country & work on the other houses a little at a time. He was heating the house with a wood stove that had small holes in the stove pipe & stove and it was dangerous. He was using scraps of wood he found to heat the house because they didn’t have cash to buy up a cord of firewood. We had a cheaper wood stove & moved to a different house and my ex told him we didn’t need the stove or stove pipe & he didn’t want to throw it away. So he accepted those and had a safer stove. They didn’t have money to buy clothes and my neighbor had a bag of clothes for her & the boy that someone gave her. She said she had to be careful how she offered them so not to make the husband feel like it was charity and the woman accepted them that way. They were living on beans because money was so tight they couldn’t do a regular grocery shop. The woman was invited to volunteer at the boy’s elementary school and someone gave her a ride to do it…. it helped her build up her self-confidence. Then she got a job there and was actually bringing in money. Her husband was demanding that she quit the job & she refused because she was for once able to buy groceries & other basic items that they needed. They argued about the job for a long time & she eventually left & filed for divorce. She found an affordable small rent house in town & moved there. One morning her son was getting ready to walk to the nearby school & saw his daddy’s truck parked in front of the house. He told his mother that his daddy had come to see him and walked over and found him slumped down in the front seat, he had shot & killed himself. This is how stubborn some people can be when it comes to the rigid rules that they were raised with about not accepting help.

Leave them alone. They know where to find me if they desire my help

You can't really help that type of person if they KNOW you are helping them. They'll get very angry.

The only thing you can do is slide an anonymous envelope under their door very quietly, and RUN!

Helping someone with a strong ego can be a delicate task. In such situations, it's essential to approach them with empathy and understanding. You could start by having an open and non-confrontational conversation, expressing your genuine concern for their well-being. Share your willingness to support them, making it clear that your intention is not to undermine their capabilities but to assist when needed.

You might suggest specific areas where you can provide assistance and highlight the benefits of accepting help, such as achieving their goals more efficiently or reducing stress. Ultimately, it's crucial to respect their boundaries and decisions. If they continue to refuse help, be patient and let them know that you'll be there whenever they are ready. Building trust and maintaining open communication are key when helping someone with a strong ego.

You can't. They seek help when they find they need it

Depends on who it is.

I have people that I help
without them asking regardless of attitude.

Rest, I don't help if they don't ask for it.
Sometimes I don't even if they ask for it.

leave them alone. they must arrive at their solution on their own or not at all

An anonymous gift

Leave them alone. Happens to me now and then. Whenever possible I avoid help from others

OP acts as though they've never been trapped in a public bathroom without TP. People figure things out in their own way.

[@sw-question] 🤔basically what you are asking is how do you help a person with a lot of stubborn pride 🤷‍♂️basically with all your good intention will they ever appreciate it or think you are interferring

Let them know you care and want to help.

I'd let them be.

Leave them be

I don't think you can force help on people unless you're their mom or something

Help, at arms length

Look them straight in the eyes and go down to the level of how they're feeling.

I’m not stupid enough to waste my time

Seriously, I wouldn’t be so inclined. I’ve learned (the hard way) not to make problems for myself trying to help those unlikely to appreciate it.