How would you help someone, who needs help but has ego that keep them from accepting any help from anyone?

I knew a man like that. He had chronic back pain and a wife and young son. He was raised to believe that the husband should be the breadwinner and that the wife should take care of the children and home. He was also raised to not accept help from the government or go to charities for help. He would find someone who had old houses that needed to be rehabbed and live in one of them, basically a shack out in the country & work on the other houses a little at a time. He was heating the house with a wood stove that had small holes in the stove pipe & stove and it was dangerous. He was using scraps of wood he found to heat the house because they didn’t have cash to buy up a cord of firewood. We had a cheaper wood stove & moved to a different house and my ex told him we didn’t need the stove or stove pipe & he didn’t want to throw it away. So he accepted those and had a safer stove. They didn’t have money to buy clothes and my neighbor had a bag of clothes for her & the boy that someone gave her. She said she had to be careful how she offered them so not to make the husband feel like it was charity and the woman accepted them that way. They were living on beans because money was so tight they couldn’t do a regular grocery shop. The woman was invited to volunteer at the boy’s elementary school and someone gave her a ride to do it…. it helped her build up her self-confidence. Then she got a job there and was actually bringing in money. Her husband was demanding that she quit the job & she refused because she was for once able to buy groceries & other basic items that they needed. They argued about the job for a long time & she eventually left & filed for divorce. She found an affordable small rent house in town & moved there. One morning her son was getting ready to walk to the nearby school & saw his daddy’s truck parked in front of the house. He told his mother that his daddy had come to see him and walked over and found him slumped down in the front seat, he had shot & killed himself. This is how stubborn some people can be when it comes to the rigid rules that they were raised with about not accepting help.