how can I offer some moral support when I don't think it's something moral, may be I'll leave in silence and you can take it as a silence support, is'

isn't it a better option thn to hurt you
I'm sorry
can't be direct

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bijouxbroussard · F Best Comment

That’s a tough one. Once someone makes you a part of something they’re involved in, by telling you about it and asking your opinion, if you’re not prepared to give an honest answer, sometimes the best you can say is, "I don’t feel qualified to comment."

Anyone insisting beyond that is pretty much giving permission to hurt their feelings. 🥺

drair · 100+, F

@bijouxbroussard thank you so much
I really needed this
Was looking for such a comment
I never felt remaining silent is the option but I just didn't know how to react
may be I'm not tht mature either
:
'I don't feel qualified to comment'
That's it
I like it
I'll remember it

SW-User

They'll probably feel you are not supporting them? In times, I have felt, I have wished a friend was more open, it would not have mattered if they agreed with me, that they would not close and hide (I sensed) hurt more. They may not like, or want your advice, but being heard and listened to goes further than you think.

Focus on your feelings for your friend, they are telling you in trust, and you can tell them what you think. They may really want this of you, but respect if they choose how to see whatever the question is? It is their life, and no matter how you think they should live, they are going to find their own way, too...

drair · 100+, F

@SW-User I'll try to be more open
though attimes I feel uncomfortable
I think I shouldn't complain
It's okay
I need to improve little
Thank you

SW-User

@drair I've learned listening to my friends help. With them, it's not about what I think is right, but listening. I try to find from their words their wants. When they do this with me, I feel heard, I open more with them. It's normal to express your wants, values, and a good friend takes cares this way.... if you didn't express, you would be more suspect, they asked you right?.

What I see is your care.