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Have you ever dated someone from a different culture ?

What was your biggest challenge ?
Madmonk · M
She kept trying to peg me.

Germans. Whatta ya gonna do
PatKirby · M
@JustGoneNow
She told me her daughter was angry I didn't respond to her, so never tell her we shagged. But mostly because she didn't enjoy anal under any circumstances.
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@Madmonk

Why go to brown town
Variety is the spice of life
ButterRobot · 51-55, M
and married them.

The biggest challenge is you marry the family as well.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@ButterRobot
I guess you always marry the family ( and sometimes ,friends ) .
Some can be too involved 😅
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@ButterRobot That is true man
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
I’m married to someone from a différent culture. It’s been so very hard in many ways.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@Niloo yes there is some good. I was also raised by parents of different cultures. There were always issues between my parents as well
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Jenny1234
Very interesting!
I’m guessing you have quite. A few stories of weddings and big family events ?
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
@Niloo no big weddings or family events since i don’t have any family here other than my kids and my sister. My husband’s family doesn’t live here either (which is actually a blessing because I would have left him long ago if they lived here)
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Yes and the biggest challenge was her parents and brothers hated mine and threatened to kill me when they found out.
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he was so perfect but I didn't wish to convert to Islam in the future
reflectingmonkey · 51-55, M
language and religion. she speaks only spanish. also, in her family, kids say "bendicion" (blessings) to parents and parents answer " que dios te bendiga"(may god bless you). now we have a son, and he doesn't speak yet but she thought him how to do the gesture and she expects me to answer "que dios te bendiga". but it is against my values to claim to know anything about god or to ask anything of god.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@reflectingmonkey
Interesting point.
Raising children can make even more complicated .
I’m sure you guys can come up with a solution that would keep all 3 of you happy .
The biggest challenges came not from us but from others' preconceived notions.
Muldoon · 56-60, M
She was born in Iran and she always walked behind me.
She was a wonderful woman but I had to turn my head behind me to talk with her.
PatKirby · M
@Muldoon
I also dated a Filipina woman when I lived in San Francisco. Great food. Both ladies were quite feminine.
Muldoon · 56-60, M
@PatKirby I know what you mean. 🥰
PatKirby · M
@Muldoon
You know it.
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Yes ... eating haggis 😩
PatKirby · M
@SW-User
You mean this?


I would give it a try, if I put some sauce on it.
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Understanding the taxi drivers and why nothing was open on a Sunday
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@Fluffybull There's a lot of shared heritage.

I read that Christmas day was a normal working day in Scotland, up till maybe 1950s.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@SW-User

In all honesty, I think it makes for a much more laidback life
I think we are running around all the time here l.
Fluffybull · F
@SW-User Later than the 1950s depending which church you belonged to. My mother was a member of the Free Church and while she was still able to go to church (about 2006) there were still no Xmas carols or any acknowledgement of Xmas.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
I married a Mexican. huge cultural differences.

The biggest challenge was him trying to figure out how to deal with me. He expected a submissive woman who would cook and clean and wait on him hand and foot. I expected a partner who was going to treat me as his equal and share in all of the household duties. I didn’t even know how to cook or clean when we got married because it had been done for me all my life.

The first few years really were a struggle. But I won the battle

my parents were from two completely different cultures but my mother also won the same battle with my dad
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I’m not from a specific culture so I guess I have 0% chances to date someone from “the same culture”
@SW-User And my family’s multicultural, so, yeah.
Yes...French Moroccan.......when I lived there. Asian.
@Niloo When in Morrocco the girl and I wanted to learn how to snorkel dive in the ocean....tank dive too. The guy she introduces me too didn't speak English and I didn't speak Moroccan. He taught me how to dive. lol
Niloo · 46-50, F
@anythingoes477
Sign language works every time !
@Niloo Not so good underwater. lol Swear......we couldn't say a word to each other. But I got a diving license. lol
Yes, a few times. Sometimes it was an issue of their families not wanting them involved with an outsider. Sometimes religion was a concern.
@Niloo Yes, that makes sense.
Crazywaterspring · 61-69, M
@bijouxbroussard Usually its racism. That's why I have no contact with my white relatives. My partner is Asian and our mixed children are flourishing. Her family fully accepts me.
@Crazywaterspring Yes, often. But not always. I’ve dated Africans and their families see me as an American overall. And because I’m biracial, not quite black enough. Not all cared about that, but some did.
the language barrier was horrible at the start
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Nunlover
Yes!!!
Also, I think It would be frustrating if you go to a party where everyone wants to speak their mother tongue and not English .
@Niloo true but she was English, I just had no idea what the fuck she was saying
houseonfire · 56-60, M
She would often get upset because she thought i was upset with her or just upset in general. I was never angry instead the difference in our culture caused her to think my questions or decisions were because i was angry. Suttle little differences became mountains.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@houseonfire
I’m sorry to hear that.
Lilymoon · F
I haven't... but I probably would
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Lilymoon
Choose wisely 😉
learning some german.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@markansas
Great!
It’s a difficult language to learn!
That's the only ppl I date lol
Peaches · F
YES, 😊 many times.
Pfuzylogic · M
I haven’t but I would guess acceptance by family and friends would be preeminent. Cultures can be so different in what they value even in the small things.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Pfuzylogic
True .
Pfuzylogic · M
@Niloo Clothes, pets , furniture, greetings can seem so normal but yet distinctive to our culture.
My fiancée, kind of. She was raised by her Mum who’s half black on the black American side of her family. So kind of.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@JustGoneNow
Well
I know you two are happy 🤗
@Niloo I adore her. I don’t think most of her family is down with her being in a relationship with a white girl, but I’m not sure they were down with her being gay to begin with. Her Mum likes me, though. And she’s a a real gem. 🖤
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Her mother 😒. 😂
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@SW-User Mother was bat shit .You should have tried for a threesome.
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Nooo way …. @bhatjc
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@SW-User 🥃
Noble · 56-60, M
Yes, yes I have; as current as now. lol

If you’re generally open to cultural differences, and appreciative of such, the biggest challenge is language - that’s been my experience.
bhatjc · 46-50, M
Mostly their parents. Some times they are old school.
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@Niloo Why are you having that problem
Niloo · 46-50, F
@bhatjc
Not anymore
I was having in-law overdose when I was married to someone from my own culture .😏
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@Niloo 😏That is their problem girl not yours. You can tell them to stick it.
Lacemaker · 41-45, F
Yes. It didn't get very far but I think his mother could have been the stumbling block. I only met her once. That was enough 🙄
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Lacemaker
Yep!
Unfortunately I know many moms like that :(
No challenge at all 🤷‍♂️
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Niloo 👀 I dun see nuffing
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Teggy
Haha!
I’m not sure what I did there !
Thanks for ❤️ My non-existing reply 🤗
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Yes
Other than her and her family being catholic, not much
Niloo · 46-50, F
@SW-User
So
How did it work?
You decided to respect each other’s beliefs and live in peace ?
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@Niloo yep
Until we broke up
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bhatjc · 46-50, M
@Niloo He will love you anyways gorgeous
Niloo · 46-50, F
@bhatjc
😊
bhatjc · 46-50, M
@Niloo What ethnic are you miss ?
GunFinger · F
I married an Aussie. That's a different culture from mine, right?
@GunFinger I don’t know nothing. lol
Niloo · 46-50, F
@GunFinger
I think so :)
Best. Fucking. Decision. I. Ever. Made.

I LOVE learning about the other side too.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@BetweenKittensandRiots
Awww!
I’m glad to hear that :)
Beatbox34 · 31-35, M
Yes.

To explain her that introducing her to parents meant I was serious 😂
riseofthemachine · 41-45, M
No but I'd love too being honest 😊
Niloo · 46-50, F
@riseofthemachine
It can be very interesting but does require patience and keeping an open mind sometimes 😌
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romper69 · 51-55, M
Yup...don't meet many with my mixed cultures 😂
Thatsright · 61-69, M
Sacrificing the lamb.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Thatsright
Oh
You had to see that 😬
Iwillwait · M
No, I haven't, I would like that tho.
Yeah. It was fine. I didn’t mind.
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Niloo · 46-50, F
@serenecourt101
I am 😀
No, just hasn't happened yet. No doubt it will come with its own challenges
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I never had a date or a partner.
His parents didn't approve of my lifestyle. They didn't drink alcohol, I did.
Married one. Different culture,vdifferent history, different language, hugely different level of corruption, different continent, different standard of living, different race, but the same religious upbringing. I guess language is the biggest problem. Religious upbringing would have been a way bigger problem
Zonuss · 41-45, M
Yes. No challenges out of the ordinary.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Zonuss
Great! 😃
Azlotto · M
Yes, I dated a Chinese lady for about a year.
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
Their family’s disapproval actually.

I find there’s a lot of fear from family of being misunderstood from people that come from a place different. Most of the time though you* can learn about others experiences and perspectives if you speak enough.
Niloo · 46-50, F
@Mrsbetweenfatandfit
Thank you
I think this is why my guy’s best friend doesn’t approve me either 😊
Mrsbetweenfatandfit · 26-30, F
@Niloo hopefully with time they can come to see anything you don’t know/ understand you’ll willing to learn 🤍
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Niloo · 46-50, F
@DeluxedEdition
Right!
Maybe the more you like them the easier it would be to adjust ?😬
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