Everybody: Answer this as honestly as you can....

I have been around men and women who have a hateful attitude toward men wearing women’s clothing. I see them as people who think they have the right to judge others but in truth they fear others judging them and so they throw their opinions and judgements out trying to deflect anything pointed in their direction. This of course just makes them look worse.

I have known men who get upset with their sons showing any inclination towards “women’s attire and activities” and do everything they can to steer them in the other direction. My own brother expressed concern when his son desired a toy kitchen set. I asked him why and he said it is “girl’s stuff”. I asked him what he did one time for a job, wasn’t he a cook? He said yes. Then I said so why would your son wanting to cook be a problem? He couldn’t answer and backed down.

These are things society/family drill into people. If people don’t conform to these ideas then they are judged as weird, not socially acceptable and put fear into others thinking they will somehow change the world as they have come to know it. People are afraid of change. They are afraid of anything different, because they were taught to fear it, not look at it as a way to learn and appreciate other people, and other cultures. Or how to blend with these differences. They were not taught that differences can live harmoniously.

I am a firm believer if someone is offended, then they need to look at themselves, not at the person or object. Their emotions don’t come from others or objects it comes from inside but people don’t want to know, so instead they try and deflect.

What was the usual response women had when a few women first started to wear pants when women were only known to wear dresses? It took a long time and a big shift towards many women wearing pants before it became “acceptable” by the majority.

My family would drive me out of the state with their hatred & closed minds!!
Every one of them laughs at or is disgusted by males they see dressed in feminine attire!
Yet every woman in the family walks around in jeans, T-Shirts & overalls with NOTHING being said!
There'e a SERIOUS double standard going on!!!

You made sense....

Possibility: we like the attention we get for wearing a pretty dress, or sexy skirt, whatever- we feel special for dressing the way we dress. Women are naturally competitive with each other quite often. It could be because of this? Very instinctual thing I believe to not feel *comfortable with a man wearing the same clothes as us.

I want to know the same reasoning myself @HumanEarth.
1. I played high school football.
2. I was a state of Ohio High School Wrestling champion.
3. Spent 27 years in the US Army as a career with 12 major surgeries from sports and war.
4. Taken human life in the line of duty and saved lives and lost lives I tried to save.
5. and here I stand as a proud veteran cross dresser just as heterosexual as any man, and I would like to know why I repulse women with my cross dressing, but it is cute or sexy when they do it.

I would like to know too.

[quote]women on the other hand, mostly the older ladies (not all of you) make a big stink about a man wearing any form of womenswear.[/quote]

That's not my experience. I've been stopped several times when out for a walk by women of all ages who compliment me on my outfit. The most recent was on Saturday when a young woman, in her twenties I think, on the till at IKEA asked if I was going to a party and later a woman who i guess would be in her seventies said how good I looked. They were both looking straight at me and could have been in no doubt that i wasn't a genetic woman.

I suppose the silent majority could all be seething with resentment but it seems unlikely to me.

When woman do it they still look feminine. When men do it they don't look masculine. Not for the most part. I've seen a few pull it off. But I'm not judging.