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Should I break up with my boyfriend?

He's been cheating. I'm too upset to even confront him....I really didnt expect this from him 😭 i never thought he would do this. He keeps messaging me acting as if nothing is wrong and i can’t face him.
Yup.

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”
— Maya Angelou
You need to sit down together and have some very frank conversations, no holding back from either of you about both of your feelings and the facts. Then you’ll both be able to decide if you want to try carrying on or not. If you do carry on it will probably be quite difficult for a while but it’s not impossible for it to work. First you really need to have those frank conversations though.
@TopOfTheWorld that's the first step, it has to be, you're right.
@peachesncream most definitely yes and I’m glad you think so. As you say you still love him , if you don’t do this you’ll very likely have so many unanswered questions eating away at you, possibly long into the future. Good luck .
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fuck his dad
@SW-User God, I love you so much sometimes. *hugs you* 🖤🤗
Spica · 31-35, F
In my opinion, hell yes.
Cheating is final to me. It’s one of the biggest deal breakers.
Once a cheater, always a cheater. You’ll keep getting hurt.
@Spica I understand the strength of your sentiment about being a deal breaker and you may well be right in her case about keep getting hurt but it’s definitely not necessarily true to say ‘once a cheater , always a cheater’. Many years of life experience, my own and others, has taught me that is often just not true.
Spica · 31-35, F
If you pay attention, you’ll notice that I started off with “In [b]my[/b] opinion”.

I have mine. You have yours. End of story.
@TopOfTheWorld
@Spica yes of course you have your opinion and I have mine. Mine is based on facts that I have personally experienced and seen happen to many people I’ve known.
I think its up to you, what do you think you should do?

Because admittedly I'm biased. having been dumped not for cheating but failure to disclose a preexisting relationship in the (now fading.) past.

I just know it hurt like hell even if I had somewhere else to go...

I think for some people romantic attraction is rare, especially women so it's easy to see monogamy as the default state of things but yeah me being poly is not even a strictly sexual thing, I didn't choose to be attracted to more than one party and often wish I wasn't.

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Alison · 18-21, F
*hugs*. Guys can be terrible😭😭.

I'd personally fuck his best friend, dump him and leave em both fucked up: But I'm fucked up and my l8fe is a disaster so there's that.
Pretty much all guys cheat, just got to decide what you can live with. How did you find out?
deadgerbil · 22-25, F
Yes you should. If he's cheating, he doesn't care about your trust and may do it again in the future
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
DO NOT REPLY TO HIM AGAIN. JUST FCKING GHOST HIS CHEATING ASS
SW-User
I think you know the answer to your question
I bet you’re hoping someone might talk you out of it and say you should give him another chance
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@peachesncream well, then shock him as well and leave him
@SW-User yes probably...
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@peachesncream I’m very sorry this has happened to you.... but at the same time be thankful you learned of it now
Suppose you have a daughter, and she comes to you in this situation. Whatever you'd tell her, is what you should do too - no matter how much you might care for the person you [i]thought[/i] they were
It’s just so hard 😭 @BeefySenpie
SW-User
Confront him. Don't be silent and suffering. Talk it out then decide if he's worth giving the relationship a second chance.
@SW-User this is suffering but even approaching him and what comes after will be suffering too. I just wish this wasnt happening 🥺
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I know it is hurting you. You have to sit down and talk to him telling him everything you know. Hear his side then take it from there and decide if he is worth giving another chance or not.@peachesncream
All the people here saying he’ll do it again, cheats never change etc, these are easy cliches but they’re way too simplistic. You might as well say people who abuse drugs or alcohol will never change, which is plainly not true. Some (not all) people can , and do, manage to change how they live and to stop negative, destructive, behaviour patterns. Anyone with a reasonable amount of life experience and ability to observe human behaviour knows this to be true. Apart from anything else , I used to be a cheat but I’m not now and haven’t been for decades now so my case alone disproves ‘once a cheat , always a cheat’.
𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐪𝐮𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐭? 𝐖𝐡𝐨 𝐰𝐚𝐬 𝐡𝐞 𝐜𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐨𝐟𝐭𝐞𝐧...𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐮𝐜𝐤 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐝?
@lulaluboo It’s one of our mutual friends actually. Well, she was my friend. So i thought. I found out through screenshots of her bragging about fucking him and showing people his nudes.
@peachesncream 𝐰𝐡𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐡𝐞 𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐞𝐱 𝐞𝐥𝐬𝐞𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞? 𝐖𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐮𝐲𝐬 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐛𝐥𝐞, 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐥. 𝐄𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐝𝐫𝐨𝐨𝐦 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐨𝐫 𝐡𝐞𝐬 𝐣𝐮𝐬𝐭 𝐚 𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟𝐢𝐬𝐡 𝐰𝐡𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐥𝐝 𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐠𝐮𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐚𝐮𝐬𝐞 𝐢𝐟 𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐠𝐮𝐲𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐢𝐱 𝐢 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐢𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐥𝐨𝐯𝐞 𝐡𝐢𝐦 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐦𝐮𝐜𝐡
MarineBob · 56-60, M
Ask your father or brother, I'm sure they'll tell you not to worry about it they'll handle the situation for you
Gangstress · 41-45, F
What else would you do lol?
@Gangstress he gave me diamond earrings this Christmas 😭
Gangstress · 41-45, F
@peachesncream we buy our own diamonds girl. Dont let a bloke lorde that shit over you lol x you got this!
dale74 · M
@peachesncream don't give it back and dump his ass and if anyone ask why you broke up say he could not decide where he liked to keep his dick
sassypants · 36-40, F
Leave him because he will continue to cheat and you will just end up heartbroken.
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
Pay a hot small scale guy model to get a picture with them and put it up on your insta.
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Yes. If he really did.. and you have proof ..drop his ass like a hot potato.
DunningKruger · 61-69, M
That's rough. I'm sorry to hear it.

Sometimes the best thing to do is just rip the Band-Aid off. Confront him, ask him to explain himself. Staying together, breaking up — that kind of depends on what he does when held up to the fire.

In the end, you have to be true to yourself, and make decisions that benefit your own welfare.

Good luck.
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
Block his number
Insidious · 22-25, F
Dump his ass girl
Deadish · 31-35, M
I can really relate to this after a recent experience. If you or your partner are unhappy it’s probably best to leave. It sucks and it’s not easy but the best thing you can do is try not to care and go forward. Don’t look back.
arkod · 36-40, M
Well, you'll confront him eventually; do it sooner rather than later 'cause unsaid words just build up in anger and frustration.
And yes, consider leaving that relationship because that's just not OK.
R5000 · 41-45, M
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
Go on a cruise
assemblingaknob · 26-30, F
JupiterDreams · 31-35
Dump him.

I know it's hard but you gotta do what's best for you... He doesn't respect you. If a guy truly loved you, he wouldn't even think about cheating.
Yes. If he is cheating he is lying to you and betraying you. Dump him!
@peachesncream Which reasons would you excuse?
@quitwhendone we all go out and drink together alot and theres lots of people fucking all over tbf lol, if it was a meaningless drunk hook up...reallly drunk...maybe I could forgive that.
@peachesncream Well, how do you know he's been cheating?
JoePourMan · 61-69, M
It's up to you, but if you don't, you can know for sure he will cheat again and again.
Is being in a relationship with him worth that pain?
Bigcountry1965 · 56-60, M
If he is cheating now he will cheat again he don’t deserve to have you in his life
Kick him to the curb he won't change once a cheater always a cheater
@ExperienceDLT that’s a tired old cliche which just isn’t true, it’s far too simplistic.
dale74 · M
how long have you dated him private message me
Reflection2 · 36-40, M
Leave. No point in it. Leave even if it hurts you.
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Insidious · 22-25, F
Yuh yuh cos I'm bored 🎶
basilfawlty89 · 31-35, M
Drop him. If there's cheating, you can't trust him.
If you don't have kids: kick to the curb. If you do, forget I said anything

 
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