My mantra is that real men protect, provide and produce for others to the best of their ability. That real men are not perfect and do not expect perfection from others and thus understand that not all men are able to protect, provide, or produce to the same measure if at all and that these imperfections do not create inferior men but simply different men.
The concept of leading is foreign to my mantra. Everyone looks out for each other. Good ideas get supported on merit, but no man is viewed as a leader or a follower. We simply are.
@ViciDraco Hats off to you. No one is perfect, and that's ok. We don't do perfect things, or don't dress up perfect every time, but we simply do things that helps us thrive. Us men can't protect forever, but we do the best we can for everyone.
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This one is easy. I simply don't tolerate that type of language around me. Soon as I hear "toxic masculinity" or "mansplaining" this that and the third I'm out.
Masculinity without femininity (vulnerability) is definitely unhealthy and leads to men compensating their neglected emotions.
They do it by hating women, competing over women with other men (jealousy/bets on sex with a girl etc) and some goes as far as harassing, raping, or any other way abusing or even murdering women to compensate for what they emotionally lack.
I'd say we don't need more masculinity we need more feminine energy in masculine men.
Example on feminity in masculine men:
- They can talk out their real feelings with their male friends and value deep friendships
- They can say No against peer pressure and stand up for themselves
- They care about self development more than "How big was her boobs?" or "How many girls have you slept with?"
- They follow their dreams and passions despite any outer opinions. "You wanna be a piano teacher? But we want you to be a doctor!"
- They are brave and authentic and dates women who support healthy gender roles. A man should cry just like a woman should cry when sad and so on.
@Pinkstarburst Yeah, I agree. There are guys that say they're this and that, but that's easier said than done. If a guy wants to prove, he's gonna have to do more than what he says. Otherwise, what's the point, right?
It’s such a weird statement because nobody has claimed that masculinity itself is toxic. “Toxic masculinity” refers to specific unhealthy behaviors and attitudes.
@Spoiledbrat I even asked people on here before about marriage. They said it's best not to get married in America. And there are some truths about how divorce favors women. A study shows that 70-80% of divorces are from women and that alimony almost wins.... except Florida.
@SteelHands I've noticed that too as time went on. The term "toxic masculinity" is just a myth that's been going on for decades. It's a shame that such term implies to men. That person is toxic if they've done something stupid. It has nothing to do with masculinity.
