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My family is straining me financially.

I am a 25 year old recently qualified doctor and this is my 2nd year working. I have a problem of a mother who I feel like is abusing me financially now. I didn’t mind helping out financially but it was just helping out at first but now I feel like she’s depending on me and it’s taking a toll on me. Last year I gave her money for minor renovations at home and I’m not even sure what she did with it but it’s fine I didn’t complain, I assume she did something well because she’s always been a good and supportive mother to me throughout my life but I really don’t understand what she does with her money because she has a good job and is not really putting any of my siblings thru school now (we’re all pretty old) and I’m sure there’s no student loans to service. I just want some advice on what to do because I’m not sure I’ll manage this year since I also recently purchased a vehicle and I want to look forward to starting my life now, including savings and just putting myself in a general good position financially. Any advice will be appreciated.
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in10RjFox · M
I have known parents who have ruined their children's finances through emotional blackmail. You need to be extra cautious if you are not living with them as it becomes much easier for them to run stories over phone.

You may have got hints about her money handling from childhood.. like whether she constantly struggles financially by spending first and then patches up by borrowing. Some are shopping addicts and some even have a private gambling addiction now that online gambling is easy

You need to put a check on her, make her testify her stories. Alternatively you pull up a story that you are having a pay cut or have lost money.. another way is to ask for a loan from her by offering interest.. or that you have to pay an urgent installment and you are short of money.

Predict her pattern and you spin a better story in advance. You can tell her not to depend on you for money for say a year by quoting some investment.