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My family is straining me financially.

I am a 25 year old recently qualified doctor and this is my 2nd year working. I have a problem of a mother who I feel like is abusing me financially now. I didn’t mind helping out financially but it was just helping out at first but now I feel like she’s depending on me and it’s taking a toll on me. Last year I gave her money for minor renovations at home and I’m not even sure what she did with it but it’s fine I didn’t complain, I assume she did something well because she’s always been a good and supportive mother to me throughout my life but I really don’t understand what she does with her money because she has a good job and is not really putting any of my siblings thru school now (we’re all pretty old) and I’m sure there’s no student loans to service. I just want some advice on what to do because I’m not sure I’ll manage this year since I also recently purchased a vehicle and I want to look forward to starting my life now, including savings and just putting myself in a general good position financially. Any advice will be appreciated.
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Talking is the easiest route if you can.

Just sit her down and explain that you don't mind helping out with emergencies here and there - but you can't and won't go on funding basic household things every month. You have your own bills and expenses, too.

Failing that, you need to look into saying "No" and creating distance between you and your family.