I Like Private Messages

Have you ever received a private message that asked a simple question like, "How was your day?" and you answered truthfully and elaborately?

I received one last night from someone presumably interested in starting a simple, friendly conversation. She asked, "Did you have a good day?" Instead of merely saying, "Yes," I replied in great detail.

She never responded. Then I followed with a message apologizing for overdoing it. Still, just crickets. I'm hoping to hear back from her but fear I may have driven her away.

Anyone else guilty of doing that?

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gmatthewb · 51-55, M

I don't go into great detail when someone asks me stuff like that because I know it will be too overwhelming for almost anyone to take. But very few actually ask how my day is.

otto78 · 51-55, M

@gmatthewb I'm the kind of person who asks "How are you?" and listens to the reply. I actually want to know! We don't take the time to or risk the discomfort of listening to each other.

otto78 · 51-55, M

@gmatthewb

gmatthewb · 51-55, M

@otto78 I'm the same way, if I ask a question it is because I really want to know the answer. So when the other person answers, I listen and am interested.

LyricalOne · F

If it comes out of the blue from a total stranger, I can’t imagine them being sincerely interested so I delete the message.

otto78 · 51-55, M

@LyricalOne I figure if someone is sending me a message, then they are reaching out to me for a reason. I am too curious to [i]not [/i]find out why.

LyricalOne · F

@otto78 That’s fine, just expect more of the same experience.

LittleBlueAngelBoy · M

Me too. But I'm almost always the one who initiates them and I almost always get ignored or ghosted.

otto78 · 51-55, M

@LittleBlueAngelBoy That's a shame. I see an unsolicited pm as a potential opportunity to meet someone new who has something in common with me or can open my mind to something new, interesting, intriguing... Am I an eternal optimist? Perhaps. I tend to think of myself as more of an opportunist, and I hate to pass up a chance to enhance or enrich my life in some way or to have an impact on someone else's life.

JerseyGal · 51-55, F

I don't usually get random messages asking that. Most of the time, mine are from people I've already communicated with.

SW-User

When they say hello or how are you I know it will eventually lead up to something pervy. 🙄

CharlieZ · 70-79, M

I once receives a PM from a woman.
Said "I love you".
I assume was an identity mistake.

otto78 · 51-55, M

Only once has it turned out to be something pervy and unwanted. But I at least found out & let that person know that "Thanks, but no thanks, not my cup of tea, goodbye".

What if it is an opportunity to connect with someone who shares a common interest or can open my mind to something new? I'd hate to miss out on that!

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