How do you let someone know that you care about them but they'll be better off without you anyways.

To tell you the truth, a comment like that is terribly lacking, and not very comforting to the recipient. One cannot make up an excuse, because it will only feel to the other person, that it is only meant to make them feel better, when in fact, they will not feel comforted in knowing that you were just trying to make them feel better. Haha if that makes any sense to you. It's more like an oxymoron. "I'm going to leave you, but don't [i]feel bad [/i]because it is actually best for you" type thing. Doesn't work. Not for someone who is hurting. It just feels like an escape route. It's not convincing and you can't tell someone else how to feel about it. It's going to hurt anyway so just be honest and tell the truth. Yes, it is the truth in your eyes, but it won't be felt as truth, to the one who is hurting.

You can't, that's an excuse. You can't know if someone will be better off. That's just an excuse people use when they don't want to be with that person.

Dont. I told someone nearly 4 years ago how i felt about them and she cut all ties, then recently i had someone else who i had feelings towards tell me she had two guys interested and which one did i think was best to be with.

I know how difficult it can be… the more you tell them the more you become a challenge for them…. Unfortunately, they don’t realize that the more they try to win the challenge, the more painfully they get trapped in their own game of winning it ….

I think its presumptions to presume for someone else that you are no good for them.. you should let them decide ..

Oh I’m a pro at this, I’m just honest about my struggles and that I wish them happiness

If you cared about her that much surely you'd step up to the plate not run away from it?

I don't let anybody know I care about them.

I’d need to know more about the kind of relationship before I can respond. Is it a wife/girlfriend, family member, friend? Would they really be better without you because you’ll bring them harm or misery?

Love isn’t only about what you’re showing or giving. Love is about letting someone the opportunity to love you back….

If you care about them, why don’t you let them determine that for themselves if they are better off without you?

It is not fair to not give them the chance to care about you.

That you can't be the person they need and that they will forever resent you for it and that's gonna be a miserable relationship for both of you and you both deserve to be happy.

I wouldn't thats their call as long as your 're honest in your dealings with them.....blocked? Np worries if you're BLOCKED but otherwise it smacks of paternalism

[quote]they’ll be better off without you anyway[/quote]

Rather obnoxious to think you know their wishes better than they know themselves

Last time I said that .. I called them the next day asking for a ride back home from jail

By saying it like that. I care about you but i think your life will be better without me in it.

You don't. You either man up and be what they need to be or you leave and accept that they are going to be hurt and might be angry or resent you. But if you truly care about them you live with that resentment towards you and let them go. Maybe they will, maybe they won't resent you but you gotta accept it instead of trying to make your standing better and yourself better. That's part of caring. Accepting what's best for them, and not just your ego.