How stupid can a person be?

I have an overseas friend who ive been chatting off and on for the past 11 years. She's a total flake and a bit of a scammer. Not to me but she tells me about her relationships she juggles and all the drama that goes with them.

Our deal is that I will chat with her anytime I'm avaliable but when we're chatting, i want her undivided attention just like i give her mine. (I have a major pet peeve about people wasting the time of other people. Time is life).

Yesterday, we were chatting for a few min on video. I was telling her an interesting story. She was looking in the direction of her camera but I could tell she was on a different screen, reading a message. Then our call suddenly dropped and when i messaged her, the massages were delivered but i got no replies. I knew she just ended the call without a word about it.

I messaged her my disappointment with her actions. Here's where it gets stupid. She replies back about an hour later telling me that her modem and router got wet due to a sudden storm and they quit working. I knew it was a bullshit story but I was playing along with it because why not. I asked her, so is everything all better now? She replies no they're still down. I sent a message " then how are you able to chat with me now?" I got crickets back.

I think she thought we were chatting through sms text messaging? ..lol i have a feeling that someone shared their latest excuse with her and forgot to tell her to wait until she wanted to be available again before offering the excuse.. lol

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SW-User

I wouldn't want to talk to someone who felt so high and mighty they demanded undivided attention.

Plus you know she's a scammer so what do you expect?

Jayciedubb · 56-60, M

@SW-User 🤔 maybe the issue here is with the term 'undivided attention' (UA). I admit that it does come across as a bit authoritarian, but I doubt you would put up with it either, considering the way you sized me up as being high and mighty for *"demanding"* her UA.

You should know that it was her who requested the VC, knowing that I would have to stop what i was doing and relocate in order to accommodate her, which is essentially giving her my UA, isn't it? Also, I don't demand anything. I do expect equality though, don't you? I'm not a hypocrite.

"Plus you know she's a scammer so what do you expect?" First, I should explain what I mean by 'scammer.' -she will catfish her boyfriends and take it as far as she can. She does it by using different phones and gets them to send money to other family members, thinking they're sending money to another woman. She does it when they want to VC. she'll say she needs data. Lol then she ends up being on the other end of the VC.🤣

What i expect is for her not to hang up on me while im telling her a story that she asked me about, aaand not to message me to tell me she didn't end the call but her modem/ router crashed and was still offline until further notice. I thought she was smarter than that.

If that's too much to expect, then you don't need to tell me you'd never chat with me. I'd never ask

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Jayciedubb · 56-60, M

@jshm2 I understand. But it's not like you think. We've been friends for 11 years, off and on. By now, I think I know her better than she knows herself.

I learned a long time ago not to put anything into any relationship of any kind that I wasn't willing to lose.

I've stayed in touch with her for all these years because she has her merits. She can be quite amusing and we always generate a lot of laughs.

Quimliqer · 70-79, M

She’s really on top of it!!

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