🎶Everybody Hurts,Sometimes🎶
I have been thinking about deep sorrow and pain; why we rarely share it with anyone.
It could be that we don't want to take the chance of it be misunderstood.
Or worse it will be downplayed or dismissed all together .
Perhaps,someone else's pain seems more justifiable and ours isn't as tragic or life altering.
But, I think, most of us know what it is to weep in the middle of the night because a situation seems hopeless.
Being vulnerable doesn't come too easily for many.
Sometimes opening up brings condemnation or almost worse dismissal.
I don't believe that's everyone and all the time
It's hard to process someone else's pain while going through your own tragedy.
People need time, patience, and a lot of love at those times.
It's hard for them to spend mental energy in other places.
When people consistently dismiss your pain or are unkind that's a lesson in whom not to open up to,it doesn't mean there isn't anybody capable of compassion.
It feels like if it's happened more than once, I know.
It is never easy to open up,but those I see doing so have a rare strength and much of the response is loving and supportive.
Sometimes, we expect people to just know we need something without having to express it, I don't believe that ever works out well.
It leads to frustration and resentment where the resentment is unjustified.
And, yes, it does happen that some people love to make a tragedy out of everything and seek out constant attention,but I don't believe that's most people.
The rare ones speak their truth without self pity,it's real and dignified.
And I think it's healthy.
Many of us weep in the night with only God hearing
But, God's word says "To weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice."
I guess that's not possible without disclosure.
I don't think it needs to be the whole world knowing and we need some discernment on how much and with whom we share with.
It's definitely uncomfortable for me and not something I do readily or very well.
It could be that we don't want to take the chance of it be misunderstood.
Or worse it will be downplayed or dismissed all together .
Perhaps,someone else's pain seems more justifiable and ours isn't as tragic or life altering.
But, I think, most of us know what it is to weep in the middle of the night because a situation seems hopeless.
Being vulnerable doesn't come too easily for many.
Sometimes opening up brings condemnation or almost worse dismissal.
I don't believe that's everyone and all the time
It's hard to process someone else's pain while going through your own tragedy.
People need time, patience, and a lot of love at those times.
It's hard for them to spend mental energy in other places.
When people consistently dismiss your pain or are unkind that's a lesson in whom not to open up to,it doesn't mean there isn't anybody capable of compassion.
It feels like if it's happened more than once, I know.
It is never easy to open up,but those I see doing so have a rare strength and much of the response is loving and supportive.
Sometimes, we expect people to just know we need something without having to express it, I don't believe that ever works out well.
It leads to frustration and resentment where the resentment is unjustified.
And, yes, it does happen that some people love to make a tragedy out of everything and seek out constant attention,but I don't believe that's most people.
The rare ones speak their truth without self pity,it's real and dignified.
And I think it's healthy.
Many of us weep in the night with only God hearing
But, God's word says "To weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice."
I guess that's not possible without disclosure.
I don't think it needs to be the whole world knowing and we need some discernment on how much and with whom we share with.
It's definitely uncomfortable for me and not something I do readily or very well.
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