Why is it normal to comment on bruises and details of someone else's body?

I also don't get what is gained from that.

I have bruises because I do lot of physical work and my body isn't the best. Not everyone gets to look pretty 24/7.

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Lonelyandyb · 36-40, M

I think sometimes it’s cause they’re concerned and care . Not necessarily any harm meant by it

Miram · 31-35, F

@Lonelyandyb I think concern is best expressed as inquiring first and then making suggestions if the person wants them.

It feels invasive and shallow.

PiecingBabyFaceTogether · 31-35, M

I know what you mean. It's rude coming from strangers it just means they are shallow it says nothing about you, you are a hard worker and nothing is wrong with you 🤗
It's kinda like telling a wheelchair user that you'd rather die than use one. I mean it was actually a former friend who said that to me but whatever I guess some people just don't think at all. The problem doesn't seem to be in you or me.

Miram · 31-35, F

@PiecingBabyFaceTogether what a messed up thing to say! Things don't think stuff through before approaching others. One time at the emergency, heart pumping like crazy, can't breathe or even talk without feeling extreme exhaustion

And this lady comes to me to comment of my sock, one was rolled down and the other up..

Like wtf?

Lot of people are so damn detached. You be dealing with hell and they will want focus on something so superficial ignoring what you're going through. They just want to use anything and anyone to feel like they are better.

SW-User

Unless they have a reason to worry about you, It's not, some people just suck..

JustGoneNow ·

Never. I would just kiss your hands and tell you I love you. 🖤🤗

iamelijah · 26-30, M

Maybe they concerned about you. I guess.

Miram · 31-35, F

@iamelijah

I can tell when someone is concerned about me. It wasn't it.

SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M

I'm guessing you don't mean out of concern comments?

Miram · 31-35, F

@SilkandLace2 Yeah, I mean saying things like "wow, that looks ugly or horrible"

Remarks like that.

Not expressing concern but focusing on how it looks like

SilkandLace2 · 46-50, M

@Miram oh i hope not, but i haven't seen any like that that i recall,

SW-User

I am a mandated reporter for students.
With an adult..it’s difficult ..

Miram · 31-35, F

@SW-User

That's part of your job. It's part of mine too.

What bothers me are strangers making very self-centered statements about it.

SW-User

Tell them you forgot your fucks to give at home and walk away.@Miram

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

People like to talk

Miram · 31-35, F

@DrSunnyTheSkeptic maybe there should be a fine for talking with strangers , determined by the number of words and the purpose

DrSunnyTheSkeptic · 26-30, M

@Miram There is such a thing, in Turkey I think. Prisons filled with journalists all of a sudden

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Miram · 31-35, F

@MalteseFalconPunch 🤗

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