I'm Afraid That I'll Be Single Forever

OK, "afraid" is probably the wrong word choice. I'm not afraid I'll be single for the rest of my life, I'm quite certain of it. As much as I'd love to find that perfect woman to spend the rest of my life with, I'm also terrified to look. Stick your hand in the fire too many times and you learn to fear the flames. Well, I've been burnt for the last time.

Probably ;-)

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SmartKat

What are you looking for from the relationship?

Passion, desire, romance? If that's it, maybe don't get married or move in together. However, there *are* women who would agree to a long-term girlfriend situation. (I know - I'm one of them.)

If you want the kids and the minivan and the house in the suburbs, don't go for a party girl or a hottie. They might take you up on it, because most women are taught to believe they're supposed to want to settle down and be domestic. But some women wouldn't be happy with that lifestyle, and they won't know it until they've married some poor guy. Then they get crazy - and the guy doesn't get the soccer-mom type that he really wanted.

If you decide to go with the soccer-mom type of woman, and the family lifestyle - be *very* sure that's what you really want. Guys, like girls, are taught to believe they have to end up living that way. Ask yourself honestly - will you be happy a few years down the road, when you're working full-time AND doing lots of household chores AND in debt AND the kids won't be quiet for five seconds AND you haven't had sex in six months? Because that's what life is like for a lot of people. I'm not saying it's necessarily wrong for everybody - but do think about it.

Like the decrepit old knight said in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade: "Choose wisely."

Zaphod42 · 46-50, M

Wise words!!! I have no interest in kids, marriage or white picket fences. I'd be content with a woman who only has a day or two a week that she could see me as long as we spend the time well together.

dynamitedoc

You are very wise, SmartKat. Great post. I'm single and am put off by all the single ads where women want to take long walks and drink wine with their potential mate. How about talking when you're sober.

I don't think I'll get married, but four women have asked me to marry them. I just need to be free. It's not being monogamous, it's being able to choose another woman to date, if I want to.
DynamiteDoc

Zaphod42 · 46-50, M

Thanks, CutiePie! I still hold some vague hope of that happening, but what will be will be :-)

PrettyOldSoul

well shit, i can do that. come get me.

PrettyOldSoul

i like the way your mind misfires, much like my own,

Zaphod42 · 46-50, M

@ Pretty - I would, but you went and moved 2000 miles away! :-p