I'm Afraid That I'll Be Single Forever

OK, "afraid" is probably the wrong word choice. I'm not afraid I'll be single for the rest of my life, I'm quite certain of it. As much as I'd love to find that perfect woman to spend the rest of my life with, I'm also terrified to look. Stick your hand in the fire too many times and you learn to fear the flames. Well, I've been burnt for the last time.

Probably ;-)

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ponycupcake

Maybe because you keep getting attracted to the fire? Maybe be attracted to something less harmless?
What I mean: try to change the type of women you are attracted to.
I used to like guys who always ended up hurting me and use me so I changed what type I was attracted to , technically I really lowered my standards according to some people.

Zaphod42 · 46-50, M

That's good advice, but in my case I'd have to change more than that. I'm kind of an emotional cripple with low self esteem so I don't think I deserve love and don't really know how to return it. As such I tend to go for the damaged type since that's the only type of woman that ever shows me any attention. *shrug* It's a vicious circle really.

SolitaireDiamond

I think everyone has suffered some damage in their life. You would have to be damned tough to travel through life and not ever feel hurt or lonely or needy.
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Anyway, some of us damaged chicks are really okay, and we can help our partners rebuild self esteem as we rebuild our own. The trap is being with someone who's baggage you can't tolerate ;o)

ponycupcake

Hmmm makes more sense now, I think you should go on journey for self love and then try to find someone you love platonically and become a better person for them. Idk