I Know You Dont Know Me

Okay. Well, it’s hard for me to even understand myself. The things I do, the stuff I say. It’s all a puzzle. I’m a complex person and part of why I can’t handle a relationship is because I can barely handle myself. However, after a recent talk with a few people, I realized that some somehow know you inside and out and everything about you. Sometimes we see things in people that the person at hand doesn’t see themselves, which is fine. However to claim you know everything about me is a lie. I hold a lot in, I have a dark past, I have things I don’t like to talk about. It’s very difficult finding out who I am and for some to say they know who I am bothers me. Maybe I’m too blind to see the real me, maybe I’m right there for all to see and I just can’t see it. I am just bothered that people are claiming to understand me when I can’t understand myself some days

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Primnproper · 56-60, F

They can only know you by what you put out here but that's not always what we are all about as there may be a lot we don't share..

Throger · 26-30, M

@Primnproper yes! Thank you! I’m a completely different person than I am on here

Primnproper · 56-60, F

@Throger some people are..

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

We all can be complex & all have a past, we all hold things inside, nobody knows anyone completely.
To think too much of yourself on this subject can be fairly narcissistic.
Usually those we deem simple can be the most complex.
And, seriously, at your age, you have plenty more years of experiences to go before bordering on true complexity.

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Throger · 26-30, M

@MsMontgomery you’re right! And apologies didn’t mean to come off as rude. I just want to be the best me possible. I had plans years ago of who I wanted to be and after everything happened up in the head it fell apart and I let it control me. Now I want to take my life back and I’m not sure where to start

MsMontgomery · 51-55, F

@Throger No worries.. but, know that Trying to ‘figure it out’ can take years. Therapy is great. But don’t put life on hold. You’ll be old before you know it.

Throger · 26-30, M

@MsMontgomery I will try not to! Thank you so much for your advice 😊

Summersrain · 51-55, F

I find journaling has really helped me to sort out my life and find outwho I really am. I use it as a crutch

Throger · 26-30, M

@Summersrain I used to journal but anymore I don’t have the energy

Karmalives · 51-55, M

Take it easy my friend

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Throger · 26-30, M

@Karmalives to be honest. I don’t know. I’ve been trying to find ways to handle situations better, everything just seems to fail. My mind just keeps churning and it doesn’t stop. Just keeps going and making ridiculous scenarios in my head and I make things worse than they need to be. It’s hard to just stop it as well

Karmalives · 51-55, M

@Throger So basically the mind just keeps thinking, and goes from one thought to the other with out completely solving or acomplishing anything ?

Throger · 26-30, M

@Karmalives yes, that’s a good way of putting it. Or if the thought is finished it’s a completely out of context or it’s some made up thought just to say I finished thinking about it if that makes sense

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