@VioletRayne i’m right there with you. I’ve given a lot of introspection to excessive levels of compassion and giving on my part over the years, so I’ve done a lot of inner work on drawing healthy boundaries etc.

it just never occurred to me that being chill about most things could also be getting me into trouble before the roller coaster even starts haha

@SW-User yeah I know it’s really hard

@Notmesam Narcissists might be closer to the truth 😂 but, yes

@DistractedKate101 it may be an issue that is naturally resolving itself as a side effect because I have a far more solid sense of who I am, what I want to be doing, what I’m working on etc. than I did in the past. For very long time it was kind of “whatever is clever” because I was just going with the flow of everything if it seemed interesting

@SW-User Yep, it always returns to who we really are at the core. Like homing pigeons who return to the center.... to the person who feeds and cares for 'em, and where their mates are. Sometimes it takes a little getting lost along the way and a few dings from the hunters to appreciate that.

@Goralski lmao. Not by outsider standards initially. They’ve always been intelligent, charming, passionate, ambitious in their way blah blah blah but yes, ultimately they turned out to have huge social and emotional intelligence deficits, and if I had loved myself better I should’ve jumped the ships way sooner lol..

@SW-User live and learn