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I Am Working On Myself

Feeling a little ‘mind blown’ right now. Just got done reading an interesting article that popped up on my newsfeed. It talked about how a good way to gauge potential abusive partners is by how they react to the first times you disagree with them, and it occurs to me that my agreeable nature has actually been part of the delay in sniffing out shitty partners. Long periods can go by smoothly.. just happy days until finally something matters enough to me I disagree, then when their head spins 360 I’m in shock.. almost a disbelief, and struggle to come to terms with the sudden change in them.

Wow..
I’m not the sort of person to agree to things I don’t want to do, but it never occurred to me that my 85% laid-back nature could actually be part of the problem in my past mate selection/filtering.
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VioletRayne · 36-40, F
If that’s true it’s prolly my problem too. And that I’m super giving naturally😒
SW-User
@VioletRayne i’m right there with you. I’ve given a lot of introspection to excessive levels of compassion and giving on my part over the years, so I’ve done a lot of inner work on drawing healthy boundaries etc.

it just never occurred to me that being chill about most things could also be getting me into trouble before the roller coaster even starts haha
VioletRayne · 36-40, F
@SW-User yeah I know it’s really hard