Does it really get better or worst?

I wonder what victims of abuse did once they got away .my abusive ex will be getting out in a year and I’m a bit nervous because I know I will always be paying attention, having anxiety everywhere I go .I feel like ny bd will try to get revenge so I know from now on out , I have to carry something on me, I would rather leave ny but I’m waiting trying to research if I should move a city over but what worries is me is that people can find out where u live just by researching your name to google and it will give an address as well, i even thought of changing my name and go to a gun state, I know these things take time but I wanna be readying. It’s so much on my mind

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thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

This is something that makes me uneasy, very uncomfortable. I live in an old apartment building. It's mostly quiet, almost all the time, with some predictable nuisance in noise. When does one decide to intervene?

I remember, one night, where I could feel the walls being banged, abused, even heard the expression from the man, 'if you didn't have such a lousy landlord, you'd have a working lock, so I could not hurt you.' Which really sums up, well, how abusive some can become. That night, I had 911 on dial, but I waited and waited, wanting her to call. As if I did, I'd never know how it would be responded upon. She might have denied all abuse. So I chose, wait, be conscious, be alert, be aware,

Eventually he left, she came out after, they had confrontation again, and I just kept flicking my lamp on and off; so he would know someone was watching. The police finally showed up. I didn't call, and I must assume she had before.

If you feel you have an abusive partner, all I can say is leave.

moongoddessx · 26-30, F

@thewindupbirdchronicles @thewindupbirdchronicles omg that is so unsettling , Jesus Christ.. I hope your okay.. I did leave I’m just wondering how I can disappear from this person because they are dangerous

thewindupbirdchronicles · 46-50, M

@moongoddessx It's years ago, I can only contribute in observation, that night was the end of all abusive and dangerous behaviour. She held the key to the apartment, phoned the police, and they did show up, I watched the whole encounter. I felt a kind of calm and quietness watching him being taken away. I saw him months later, picking up mail, despite his abusive tendencies which belong somewhere else, I did make a note of asking, what are you doing here?

If he is that dangerous, please call police.