Shattered beyond belief

I've posted here before about it, but my girlfriend of 5 years has been cheating on me nonstop and has finally decided to leave, I'm beside myself with grief and a mountain of debt from the relationship that is just unreal, I wish I could make everything better but I cant, it all happened because she cant stand my son from another marriage, how can someone hate a child so much that they would make the father choose, the choice is simple...

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LadyGrace ·

Been through this. If you're going to heal and recover, you're going to have to tell yourself the truth, though it hurts like crazy, or you'll never heal. You'll just stay stuck the rest of your life, and that you don't want.

The child was just an excuse. If she was a good friend/person/woman, and genuine and trustworthy, she wouldn't have drained you dry financially then took off. ONLY ONE YEAR of known cheating is enough, let alone, one day! Who needs a cheater? What you lost is a user and cheater, and I'm so sorry you were used like that, but it's not love you lost. What's grieving you, is not the loss of the girl, but what you THOUGHT you had with her. Now you see it was all a lie, so you're in shock and need to heal. You're hurt over that dream/fantasy loving relationship [b]you only thought you had[/b]. And that hurts bad. Im so sorry for your suffering.

I see much time has passed. How are you now?