Shattered beyond belief

I've posted here before about it, but my girlfriend of 5 years has been cheating on me nonstop and has finally decided to leave, I'm beside myself with grief and a mountain of debt from the relationship that is just unreal, I wish I could make everything better but I cant, it all happened because she cant stand my son from another marriage, how can someone hate a child so much that they would make the father choose, the choice is simple...

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SammyJo · 51-55, F

Erhhhh.....the comment that she cheated because of your son? Hmmmmmm...not so. I think you'll find that she cheated because she was just that; a cheater!

So, just don't take that bit to heart. In terms of the debts, which should be something that you need to concentrate on, just make yourself a plan - a budget - get in touch with whomever you need to and explain what has happened; most companies are happy to revise payments...as long as they get paid in the long run, right?

In terms of your heart though.....wished I could give you a hug and say that you'll find the right girl....the perfect girl....for you. It'll happen...

Keep on keepin' on...

SJD xx

ddmagnum · 31-35, M

@SammyJo she ultimately left me because she kept fighting with him, Hes 8 mind you, I'm hoping to get things in better order I've just been in debt this entire year and I've been trying my damndest to get ahead... and the debt came from when she lost her job and I maxed out everything to get us by, but shes cheated on me with at least 3 guys, and I'm stupid enough to forgive

SW-User

@ddmagnum

and I'm stupid enough to forgive

This is not me trying to be mean but yes that was dumb. However that's over and done with now you've got an 8 and 2 year old look to out for.

Now mate. You have to be responsible. You cannot just give your heart out to a woman simply because she's there you have got to make them earn you. I saw your reply about how people cheat on you constantly and you keep forgiving, sir that's because you let that mess happen.

You cannot allow yourself to be treated like a door mat your kids might see that and take after you. Cut that nonsense out. Be a man. A woman must earn your love and even then, she must know that you're willing to walk away if need be. We aren't in some movie where talking about loving hard is some sort of romantic gesture, this is the real world and there are kids involved and they need a semblance of stability.

Choose your partners wisely a be a man.

SammyJo · 51-55, F

@SW-User Exactly! It's give and take....and relationships are hard! They're not all fluffy; there's low points and difficult points as well as the good bits...and commitment to each other and the relationship is the important thing.

Without that, there's no relationship...no bond.

I've never believed in the 'treat them mean, keep them keen' school of relationships, more the taking time out to discuss things regularly.

With children involved, well....those are the priority now...

@ddmagnum I wish you well, babe, and hope you find that right person...

😘

SJD x