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Some people just don't get it

Do you have that one person who drives you up the wall but you know if you tell them, they'll be crushed?
It's having a very negative affect on my entire life.
I feel disrespected and intruded upon and absolutely smothered to the point to where I'm going to have to have my doctor up my meds....
ninalanyon · 61-69, T
You can't and shouldn't medicate your way out of this sort of situation. If the alternatives are crushing someone else or crushing yourself you have to sacrifice the other person or at least some aspects of your relationship with them.
AnotherHe · 36-40, M
Argh you're too kind. But i feel you. Toxic people always lack of accountability and excellent being the most pitiful victim over the fire they started. Do me a favour, rescue yourself.
Tumbleweed · F
@AnotherHe Thank you 🙂
Toxic people need to be told, and if you hurt their feelings, too bad. They're making you ill, time to sever the connection, and get your health in check.
CrazyMusicLover · 31-35
@cinsac Sometimes you just don't want to let them know where your weak spot is so if you are stuck with them for some reason, it might be better to keep it to yourself.
@CrazyMusicLover By all means, use tact, and maintain superficial pleasantries. Aside from that, this person is making her ill. Would you sacrifice your health to cater to toxicity?
AbbeyRhode · F
Sort of. I have several in my life that don't care what they say to me, or how it hurts my feelings, but I have to walk on eggshells around them, because God forbid I say the wrong thing.
Tumbleweed · F
@AbbeyRhode I've been there too. It's absolutely miserable. That's why I'm so very happy living alone
akindheart · 61-69, F
yes but it is because she is a troublemaker and tries to get people fired. when she is nice to me, I cringe
Tumbleweed · F
@akindheart Yes, I've had one of those too!
akindheart · 61-69, F
@Tumbleweed they are called sociopaths...
Frostcloud · F
ah yes, sacrificing your own health for someone elses. i wish i didnt understand and havent experienced this time and time again myself

im very sorry. i dont know your situation and its not my place to give advice. but , truly, your comfort, mental, and physical health matters ❤

if your best friend, an acquaintance, or wven a stranger, read your post to you like it was their own, what would you tell them?
Tumbleweed · F
@Frostcloud I've told this person many many times, plainly and clearly - I do not want company. I do not want phone calls. I do not want to go anywhere... Yet they call me to tell me they're coming over so we can go out somewhere... We work together so we chat all day, they park beside me so we chat after work, then they call in the evenings and it's always about I, Me,I,Me,I,Me. All I can get in is yeah, I know, yeah, I know, yeah,I know. 😡😢
Frostcloud · F
@Tumbleweed i had a relationship exactly like this. i am so grateful every day they're no longer in my life. i moved states and i still get scared hes going to break into the house lol.

please, get cameras and refuse to see them. document telling them no. maybe go to hr too
Sounds like you’ve already told them countless times and they remain uncrushable. Not worth sacrificing your physical and mental health over. You are under no obligation to answer their phone calls nor their knocks on your door. Time to get tough and remain consistent because you are basically being stalked which is completely unacceptable.
Jenny1234 · 51-55, F
if you have to take medication to deal with someone like that, then that is a problem. I know setting boundaries and standing up to people is hard sometimes especially for some people, but it sounds like it’s absolutely necessary in your case. It can be done in a really good way by talking it out and being sensitive to their feelings
AntisocialTroll · 56-60, F
Don't do it, I know it's tough but you need to get them to back off. Is there any mutual friend or relative that might be able to speak to them on your behalf?
Tumbleweed · F
@AntisocialTroll I've told them myself, no company, no calls, no outings, many many times. It dies no good.
Different · 31-35, M
If u set me off ill tell you but if u wanna fight instead of fixing the situation for good then kkcked outta my life for good.
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