I Am a Curious Person How do you explain to your spouse that their coldness and unaffectionate...

Ambroseguy80 · 51-55, M

I think it's good to express your feelings, but I think stating them point-blank like that is somewhat a threatening manner. Try figuring out how to disarm each other without demanding something so nebulous. Maybe he has worries from work or finances that are causing him to be so business-like with you at home. I think if you try to ease his worries instead of creating more for him, that would be best for both of you. I know this because I hear the same things from my wife - sometimes after an awful day at work - and I just tend to tune her out. Wish she could figure out how to get what she wants without causing more stress, work, or anxiety for me!

eibboregon · 26-30, M

Well, what I hear you saying is that you coexist and not much else, beyond that is happening. You seem to be at your wits end. You use words like "platonic partner" and "can we just be friends". Are there children involved? If there are, you have to at least attempt to reconsile (sp) your differences for the children's sake. That being said, you sound miserable and it may be in the best interests of everybody in volved, including the children, to move on and go your separate ways... 👦🏼

jackson55 · M

He's suppose to be your best buddy, your lover, the rock in your life. Just friends wouldn't get it.

RemovedUsername4422 · 61-69, M

Have you read the "Five languages of Love"? Basic concept is that we have five basic languages; gifts, acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch and time. A person can be giving a 100 percent in "their" dominate language while the receiver might be wanting a different language...(i.e. one wants exciting "time" while the other wants words of affirmation). I would suggest at least skimming it ...