I Am a Curious Person

How do you explain to your spouse that their coldness and unaffectionate nature has caused you to now view them as a platonic partner? I am hoping for some help because all I can come up with is can we just be friends hahaha I don't think that will work.

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Ambroseguy80 · 56-60, M

I think it's good to express your feelings, but I think stating them point-blank like that is somewhat a threatening manner. Try figuring out how to disarm each other without demanding something so nebulous. Maybe he has worries from work or finances that are causing him to be so business-like with you at home. I think if you try to ease his worries instead of creating more for him, that would be best for both of you. I know this because I hear the same things from my wife - sometimes after an awful day at work - and I just tend to tune her out. Wish she could figure out how to get what she wants without causing more stress, work, or anxiety for me!