I saw this quote today…..

I figure if someone wants to know my side of the story, they'll ask me about it, but I usually don't feel compelled to tell it to anyone who doesn't bother to ask.

Eh, there's legitimate strategic value to having people side with you in heated situations.

I used to be a very different person.
I did some pretty extreme things that got people talking.
They came up with their own narrative for my actions with out even asking me what happened.
To this day, even tho I have explained my side and never faulted or changed one tiny part, they still think that I did what they think I did for why they think I did.
Screw them. Let think what they will because you ain't changing any ones mind.

I, for the most part, try to let my admissions of fault/guilt and sincere apologies speak for me. If you cannot see I take fault for my errors and actions, often without being asked, then no defense I offer is going to change your mind.

Nah. People will believe what they want to believe anyway.

No, not everyone. There have been times it has been very important to me though, for some people to hear my side.

Generally, people don't want the truth. They want to be inflamed, they want to react and they want the drama that goes with it. They're going to believe about you whatever makes them feel self righteously inflamed.
And the people directly affected by what you're supposed to have done end up going in some form of victim mode. Generally, with exceptions of course.
In that premise, you can speak your truth till you go blue in the face and no one will care. Everyone has their own agenda in what they want to hear. And it is nothing resembling the truth.
So I've dropped the notion of wanting to be heard or understood.

I find it is far far more important to be accepted than it is to be understood.

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I'm learning to take that tact with my wife.... she doesn't care about my side so, i just keep it to myself

No I don’t… my mother told me to write a letter to me Ex’s family, telling them my side. As they all turned against me.
I said no, I don’t need to explain anything, they can think what they want. 😁

If I'm asked, maybe. Not many people are good listeners. Fewer still practice the unwritten law of close friend confidentiality.

Most people just make problems worse.

Too much of either secrecy, or advertising, is wrong, it doesn't work.

And even if they know ,there's no guarantee that they will act accordingly.

Yes, no need to prove, or convince - it's a trap

I think it all depends on the situation
For example if you’re being accused of doing or saying something you did, you may want to defend yourself and clear your name

i come here because no one listens. this is the only place i can call home where i am free to share ideas. sick right??? 👾 makes me a product to be bought & sold. but i have nowhere else to go.

people want others to be quiet or just go along with things, because they are afraid, they fear contradiction. i would rather have a world where people are free to speak even if i don't like what they have to say.

I owe nobody an explanation. That said I have been known to indulge in a few questions.

No one needs to know my side. Everything that happens is my fault anyway, i cant do anything right.

No, I think if it’s anyone worth anything they would talk to me and know the truth

Could not agree more. If they don't want to try to know you then they don't need to know you

Not really ...
People believe what they want to
It's a waste of time

Yes, I can even put it into a poem it's called, " It wasn't my fault😩"

Almost never, I'm usually very quiet about it, it's my Mo.

It should be true, but sadly it’s not.

Amen to this sis!!! ❤️💋

Absolutely 👍✔️

No, I don’t.

I have given up on that to some extent. If people already have their own view of the situation they may not understand my side of the story no matter how well I try to explain it :(

Yeah but only in online debates when it gets distorted for some reason. I think others do it on purpose but not everyone.

True

This very much answers the culprits who are insulting the others here.

Who cares what others think if they hate you it means you are doing something right lol

not very many ppl know my side of any story.

Sadly, for some people not being misunderstood can be a matter of life and death.

On here its always one sided and u made me smile as u r learning