Is emotional Unavailability a Mistake?

I've always grown up being told to keep my heart guarded. I'm not sure when it morphed into an iron wall. Is this something that'll make up upcoming years less bearable?
How does one go about becoming more relatable?

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BlueVeins · 22-25

I'm not exactly the poster child of emotional availability, but what helped me was finding people who were very sweet that I could trust to talk to them.

FCNantes · 22-25, M

@BlueVeins The only such people I manage to find are women. 🤷‍♂️

BlueVeins · 22-25

@FCNantes i find it much easier to talk to and befriend women in general, but i'm sure there are good guys to talk to about your shit

FCNantes · 22-25, M

@BlueVeins I'm sure there are, too. But they're few & far between.
Besides, there's nothing I'd say to a man that I wouldn't say to a woman.

FCNantes · 22-25, M

My advice's if you find someone you can trust, someone who'll take the piss out of you but who won't degrade you for being emotionally open & someone who you can be friends with, go for it & be open with such a person because the experience's wonderful!
If you don't find such a person, don't bother, you'll only hurt yourself!

Everyone's different & maybe you wouldn't enjoy such companionship, but if this's the case, I'd suggest a bit of introspection (like you're doing here), without beating yourself up.

Even if you don't find such a person, remember to stay true to yourself & to express yourself. All the best!

curiosi · 61-69, F

Practice mediation. Quieting the mind brings up things that need to be healed.

Saule19 · 22-25, F

@curiosi so this is definitely something I can do on my own? Or is therapy advisable?

curiosi · 61-69, F

@Saule19 I have found doing it on my own was best. I started mediating and things came up. No one understood me so I gave up talking to others about it. Funny thing is that the more I meditated the more things just fell into my lap. I would find articles about things I needed to hear.

FurryFace · 61-69, M

@curiosi ok Grass Hopper

rockstar · 31-35, M

In my opinion, it’s good to be emotionally strong to the extent of being an ‘iron wall’. You’ll stay happier and be more successful, given lesser emotional aspect playing in.

ozgirl512 · 26-30, F

There's being guarded and there's shutting yourself off ...

CleverFunnyNameGoesHere · F

Emotional unavailability is okay at your age. You don't have to share yourself with every person who wants to get close to you. A lot of them are probably not going to be genuine (at least that has been my experience). Do what feels safe and right for you.

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FurryFace · 61-69, M

sometimes you just can't , there's no one Youer than You ! - the Cat in the Hat

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