do you ever make the mistake of giving too much to somebody, when they don't give the same back

Tit for Tat? I don't know if that's a good way to view your acquaintances here on SW. I'll tell you a story about a friend that my ex USED to have. His name was Mark, and he was VERY insecure. Mark would NOT call the ex if it was the ex's "TURN" to call him. He would wait forever and never call rather than just be a friend and allow the ex to call in his own time.

If you would HAVE a friend, you must BE a friend.

Here are some key characteristics of friends:

Honesty: True friends are honest with each other, providing constructive feedback and support.

Empathy: They understand and share your feelings, offering emotional support.

Loyalty: A good friend stands by you during tough times and remains trustworthy.

Humor: Friends often share a sense of humor, making each other laugh and lightening difficult moments.

Encouragement: They motivate you to pursue your goals and dreams, celebrating your successes.


These traits contribute to strong and lasting friendships, making them essential for meaningful connections.

But YOU have to start by exhibiting these traits toward the people you like, and with whom you wish to be friends. You can't sit back and wait for other people to do all the work!

I’m quite open. That’s me.

Occasionally it is abused, that’s painful. But I move on.

Yes there are those who live for doing stuff like this and lie in wait ready to manipulate others. Have some family members like this and I can’t deal with them any more because they are so slick about it. Didn’t expect any kind of repayment but it’s never-ending and the first time you tell them no they will stab you in the back as though you never did anything for them at all….spreading lies and other types of trouble-making.

Keep reaching out and trust that this will happen.