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How to not misspeak

I could use some advice

I always make sure to tell the truth and never lie to people. However, when someone asks me a question I always end up misspeaking or misrepresenting information anyway, even though I never have the intention to do so.

What is causing me to do this?

For example:

If someone asks me “did you do your laundry” and I didn’t but for some reason I end up saying “yes”, or “did the doctor get back to you” and he did but for some reason I say the exact opposite which is “no”.

I don’t wake up deciding that I’m going to lie to people, but why do I end up doing it? It’s really messed up

It’s really bothering me and I don’t know how to overcome it. Could anyone help?

Thanks
Glossy · F
Try to avoid one word answers. Let your answers come with a very complete explanation. So, “did the doctor get back to you” gets an answer like "they got back to me yesterday afternoon, and I made an appointment".
Including an explanation in the answer prevents you from making up a simple one-word lie which, in turn, makes you think more carefully about your answers before you give them.
@Glossy Excellent advice.
I've never encountered anyone with this problem before.
Maybe it's a neurological quirk; I don't know.
Might be worth seeing a doctor for a check with a psychiatrist.

Check with yourself whether the lie is something you wish were true.
In which case, perhaps it's a form of impulsiveness. That can be neurological and there are things that can be done about it.

Check with yourself whether your answer has an element of ego in it, hoping others will see you in a better light.
If so, the lies will eventually bring you undone when people realise you talk bullshit, or worse, are not honest.

If it turns out to be not neurological, then you should be able to change it yourself. Slow down the time it takes to answer a question. Think of the truth and then say it. You might be surprised how warmly be respond to the truth.
For most people, even an unpleasant truth (said tactfully and with empathy) is preferable to a pleasant lie.
Abstraction · 61-69, M
Do you want to know the absolute cure for this? It takes courage but I'm not recommending something I don't do. I began to do this long ago and I don't misspeak ever.
Every time you say something that isn't true, go back to that person and admit it and apologise. It also takes courage then when someone asks you a question about doing laundry and you have to admit you didn't - but it's better than coming back later and admitting you lied. The unexpected thing that happens is - people respect you for doing so. It soon cures you. I don't know anyone who hasn't been dishonest at some point - we all understand it.
I'm 100% genuine about this. This is the way I live.
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SW-User
Do you lie about lots of things often? Like important things
@SW-User do you mind giving an example on an “important” thing? I want to make sure I answer your question right and not misspeak
SW-User
@MyLegGuy2020 like maybe those times when you say yes about the laundry it's cause you don't want to be lectured about the laundry, but an important lie, like making up things all the time, getting you in trouble because of that, could be lies about your life etc if different
@SW-User Like what George Santos did? No. I’m always truthful about things that are going on in my life that important. I would never lie about things such as what I do for a living, my educational background, etc.
revenant · F
It might be a habit acquired from your childhood. Maybe you had to lie to a parent to avoid bad consequences.
Try to make a habit of telling the truth perhaps ?
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I don’t lie.. I withhold key information
@TheOneyouwerewarnedabout Wow, good for you! You’re always good and I’m bad. You’re bragging about how good you are and it’s making me feel bad.

Stop, just stop!
Pathological liar?
MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M
It's a psychological habit called compulsive lying. If you're like me then you used to consciously lie to people which started it for you. It's easy to solve it. Every time you say something to a person you think "Was that a lie?", and if it was then you tell them that you said the wrong thing and that you meant the other thing (the other thing being the truth). Just doing this a few times will teach yourself that the consequences for telling the truth isn't bad, and thereby defeat the purpose of lying.
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