How to not misspeak

I could use some advice

I always make sure to tell the truth and never lie to people. However, when someone asks me a question I always end up misspeaking or misrepresenting information anyway, even though I never have the intention to do so.

What is causing me to do this?

For example:

If someone asks me “did you do your laundry” and I didn’t but for some reason I end up saying “yes”, or “did the doctor get back to you” and he did but for some reason I say the exact opposite which is “no”.

I don’t wake up deciding that I’m going to lie to people, but why do I end up doing it? It’s really messed up

It’s really bothering me and I don’t know how to overcome it. Could anyone help?

Thanks

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hartfire

I've never encountered anyone with this problem before.
Maybe it's a neurological quirk; I don't know.
Might be worth seeing a doctor for a check with a psychiatrist.

Check with yourself whether the lie is something you wish were true.
In which case, perhaps it's a form of impulsiveness. That can be neurological and there are things that can be done about it.

Check with yourself whether your answer has an element of ego in it, hoping others will see you in a better light.
If so, the lies will eventually bring you undone when people realise you talk bullshit, or worse, are not honest.

If it turns out to be not neurological, then you should be able to change it yourself. Slow down the time it takes to answer a question. Think of the truth and then say it. You might be surprised how warmly be respond to the truth.
For most people, even an unpleasant truth (said tactfully and with empathy) is preferable to a pleasant lie.