How to not misspeak

I could use some advice

I always make sure to tell the truth and never lie to people. However, when someone asks me a question I always end up misspeaking or misrepresenting information anyway, even though I never have the intention to do so.

What is causing me to do this?

For example:

If someone asks me “did you do your laundry” and I didn’t but for some reason I end up saying “yes”, or “did the doctor get back to you” and he did but for some reason I say the exact opposite which is “no”.

I don’t wake up deciding that I’m going to lie to people, but why do I end up doing it? It’s really messed up

It’s really bothering me and I don’t know how to overcome it. Could anyone help?

Thanks

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MartinTheFirst · 26-30, M

It's a psychological habit called compulsive lying. If you're like me then you used to consciously lie to people which started it for you. It's easy to solve it. Every time you say something to a person you think "Was that a lie?", and if it was then you tell them that you said the wrong thing and that you meant the other thing (the other thing being the truth). Just doing this a few times will teach yourself that the consequences for telling the truth isn't bad, and thereby defeat the purpose of lying.